VISUALIZE. BELIEVE. ATTAIN.

Nothing can prevent your picture from coming into concrete form except the same power which gave it birth – YOURSELF. – Genevieve Behrend

Happy Friday! We leave you with this quote before you enter the weekend + a new week. VISUALIZE what you want, BELIEVE in it, and you will ATTAIN exactly what you seek out.

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

 

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‘Merica

Happy 4th of July to all of our (still) loyal friends and followers. We have been very absent lately and we want to apologize for that. A lot has been going on in our lives but we still want to make a commitment to all the Betties out there. Promise we will be getting back on our A game in the next week.

Have a safe and fun 4th! Remember, in the name of the Betties “Stay classy America”

merica

We Love you!’

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

Gatsby

We don’t usually do write-ups or reviews on movies, and we wouldn’t call this a review but after seeing the 2013 version of The Great Gatsby, we were moved.

In 8th or 9th grade we read the book, day-by-day, analyzing the plot, climax and character synopsis. After finishing the short read we were instantly in-love. To this day it is still regarded as one of the best American Novels ever written.

This is the third version of the book adapted into film and it’s incredible. The scenery, lighting and cast were very well thought out and planned. When we don’t find ourselves squirming around in our seats during a 2+ hour movie then we know it’s a great one.

Whether you’ve read the book or not, go see the movie. We promise it won’t be a disappointment (although our crush on Leo may have pushed our liking of the movie that much higher).

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Go see it..

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

Paying it Forward

A personal story for our What did we learn this week:

This past week I was at work doing my thing and this man came up to the bar. Immediately, I asked him what I could get for him and he replied with “I’m just waiting to pay, and how is your night going?” I then started to tell him about how dead it had been. He finished his transaction with his waitress and proceeded to walk away.

Almost immediately he returned and upon his return I noticed a $20 bill that he had slipped under my wine opener. I looked at him and said “Sir, you don’t have to do that!” he said “let me tell you this story” :

I was in Texas at my daughters graduation from a rehab center and I took her and about 30+ other people out to eat. The bill couldn’t of been cheap, I want to say around $1800 at least. I asked for the bill and the waitress told me that it had been taken care of, needless to say I was shocked! I found out that the man sitting in the booth alone on the other side of the restaurant had paid our bill. We were told that his daughter had also attended the same rehab that my daughter had. However, she was later killed by a drunk driver, and he came into this restaurant everyday and ate alone.

As chills ran across my body I kept my eyes locked with this mans while he finished his story. He said ever since that day every time he comes into this restaurant he likes to give something back in memory of what that nice stranger did for him. Paying it forward.

I was SO touched by this story, and he taught me a lesson too. That man gave me a $20 bill and I didn’t even serve him a drink.. just to do what he felt was right. Take a lesson from this story and pay it forward every now and then. Not only will it make you feel good it will make that person feel even better.

It’s the little things in life that make the biggest difference!

XO,

East Coast Betty

Top 10 Faves on Insta

We are no different than you: we are just as tapped into Instagram as the rest. We chose our top ten favorite profiles! Definitely take a look and follow them. You will not regret it.

1. Alana Blanchard – Model/ Surfer
@alanarblanchard
2. Hypebeast – Online Fashion Magazine
@hypebeast
3. Nasty Gal – New & Vintage Clothing
@nastygal
4. Insomniac Events – EDM
@insomniacevents
5. NYC Street Art – Graffiti in NYC
@streetartnyc
6. Black Milk Clothing – Leggings
@blackmilkclothing
7. The Ultimate Fitness – Fitness Blog
@theultimatefitspo
8. Birchbox – Beauty Products
@birchbox
9. Victoria’s Secret – Lingerie
@victoriassecret
10. Pasqula Rotella – Owner of Insomniac Events
@pasqularotella

Enjoy!
Xo,
The Ultimate Betties

Although we love a good drunk text..

don’t do it!

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Here’s the thing about drunk texting, no matter what you “logically” think is acceptable to say at the time..it’s not. The next day we bet you cringe when you pick up your phone and scroll through the latest sent messages.

We have a solution, not that we use it all the time but it’s worth the try. And, yes it definitely works. By now we all have smart phones, and even if it’s not an iPhone, they all must have some sort of notepad or word pad or some kind of app you can download to write down those crazy thoughts in your head. That’s just it, when you get drunk or even when you’re sober.. whip out that phone and go to town! Curse out every dirt bag in your life if you want.

Never go through with sending it but the feeling of releasing those emotions and energies is powerful..i.e. the power of writing. Of course, do what you feel when you want to but our advice is to avoid that route at all costs and..

Our advice usually works,

The Ultimate Betties xo

Sticks & Stones

If you haven’t caught on yet: we have a bible of pet peeves. Today we have to rant about ‘low blows’. I think the moment you graduate and move on from the bubble we call high school; the low blows shouldn’t follow. It’s inevitable at times to let your emotions guide you but as you get older you need to man up, be an adult, and let bygones be bygones.

If your best friend was ‘white girl wasted’ and started a stupid fight with you because you cut her off. LET IT GO. If an ex decides to contact you either ignore it or act friendly. It’s pretty mind-boggling how someone you once loved and confided in can hit below the belt with no remorse.

Do we need to remind you all the golden rule, ‘If you have nothing nice to say don’t say it at all’.

Basically, these Betties are fed up with the drama, name-calling, and low blow comments that are completely unnecessary. Grow up. If you think life is an ongoing series of Vanderpump Rules — you are delusional. People don’t open up and share their dreams so you can make fun of it later when you’ve run out of ammo. A person who belittles a dream probably doesn’t have their own.

Words have a lasting impression on a person. So why not make your words extraordinary. Be the type of person that has enough class and respect for others to lift them up, not bring them down like a coward.

Just remember Betties & Bobbies… Revenge doesn’t get even BUT karma does.

Don’t ever fucking bully anyone and just so you know karma has everybody’s address and a mother fucking stamp – Lady Gaga

XO,
The Ultimate Betties

Dear Middle Finger…

Thanks for sticking up for me!

"As long as you look good, and you cross your legs..middle fingers don't matter."

“As long as you look good, and you cross your legs..middle fingers don’t matter.”

As trashy as it may be, let’s be honest the middle finger has become a complete staple of our generation. Words don’t even need to be spoken and you know exactly what that person is trying to convey. It’s universal.

One of the most ancient insult gestures known, the middle finger seems to have originated over two millennia ago. It has also been commonly referred to as a phallic symbol: “By doing it, you are offering someone a phallic gesture. It is saying, ‘this is a phallus’ that you’re offering to people, which is a very primeval display.” –BBC News

The middle finger probably arrived in America with the Italian immigrants in the late 1800’s..vaffanculo. And thank you to the Italians, Americans now use it on day-to-day basis. We see it on TV, in pictures, magazines, walking down the street, you name it. People have even positioned their babies sticking up that finger with pride.

Half the time it’s used as a flirty gesture. Let’s look at Bob and Betty flirting during a normal work day, there is definitely some chemistry between them and Bob likes to throw in some playful banter. Although, Betties do use their words if she has nothing to say up goes that middle finger with cute smile to follow.

Judge us all you want but we have no shame using the middle finger:

Keep your chin up high and you’re middle finger higher.

Stay Classy!

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

 

Ten Things NOT to say

Betties —

Over the years we have heard many dating stories. We thought it was time to put a little list together of things NOT to say. If its date number 1 or you’ve been casually hooking up for months; spare yourself the embarrassment PLEASE. Wait until he’s in love with you before you start dropping these bombs.

1. I told my therapist about you — Issues party of 1 your table is ready. We’ve all seen a third-party to help us but keep this to yourself. It’s meant to be private.

2. My ex… — STOP RIGHT THERE. Next…

3. When we’re married/have kids — until this is something you’ve spoken about on a serious level (not stoned off special brownies) don’t speak of this

4. You think she’s hotter than me, don’t you? — Confidence is sexy. If he’s with you it’s because he WANTS to be. Don’t ruin it by saying something like this.

5. Awww it’s so cute and little — If you say this either a) run or b) you’re joking, he’s not laughing, and you’re still in your six month drought.

6. Do you want to see pictures of my cats? — Guys usually don’t want to know you treat your pet like a child. It freaks them out.

7. My baby daddy’s new girlfriend is such a stalker —…. No explanation needed.

8. I hate (insert body part here) — again, confidence is sexy. Also, Most of the time what you hate he doesn’t see so now you just look insecure.

9. Can you go buy me some Tampons? — We don’t even let our best girlfriends do this for us so please don’t humiliate him by asking this.

10. Birth Control? No! I don’t believe in that. — If you are trying to get that ‘stage five’ clinger away from you this works every time… Otherwise NEVER UTTER THESE WORDS.

We feel like these are pretty obvious but sometimes it’s easy to get ‘blinded by love’. Mystery is always good in a relationship especially the beginning.

XO,
The Ultimate Betties

Betty VS Bar

While out shopping this past weekend we saw this:

First off, John Waters is a stud. It goes without saying but oh well – we said it. We are the first to say sleeping around is social suicide. It’s awful for your self – esteem and true Betties KNOW their worth. OK – we will stop preaching. It’s not 1955 and going home with someone you aren’t serious with is bound to happen. How many times have you gone to a guys’ house, scanned their room, and you were automatically turned off.

TMNT action figures? Is that a stuffed animal? Wait, did I just hear a cough that sounded like it came out of a 90 year old womans mouth?

He looked so cute at the bar in his expensive outfit. I would have never guessed he was this strange or possibly living at home with his grandmother. Maybe it was the three Long Island Iced Teas I downed, but damn. This is a no-go.

John Waters has a very very valid point here. The obvious message is true. We do need to make books cool again. If they have books, they are probably intelligent. Even if they aren’t the next Einstein they care enough to continue to learn which in turns mean growth. We’re adults now. We need to think about these things no matter how much we want to pretend they don’t matter. THEY DO. This isn’t college. An unopened bottle of Svedka in his refrigerator should not seal the deal.

Long story short – next time you find yourself at home with a cute guy from the bar, make sure to really evaluate the situation you’re in. You could end up with this guy for the rest of your life. Be cautious. Be smart. Be safe!

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

Man, Woman or Metrosexual?

Met·ro·sex·u·al
[me-troh-sek-shoo-uh l]
Noun

1. A heterosexual, usually urban male who pays much attention to his personal appearance and cultivates an upscale lifestyle.

So everyone is throwing this ‘M’ word around like it’s some kind of bad thing. When you
look back at 40 or more years of our culture, think about all the snazzy outfits that have evolved from the 60s through the 70s and continue to this day. They are always changing but haven’t guys always cared about how cool they looked, even though they are duty bound not to admit it?

Most men are Metrosexual but few will admit it. If you’re on your way out the door to
work, to tennis, to the gym, going out with your buddies or on a date and you pause for a
moment at the front door and look at yourself in the mirror, you got to admit how you look
matters. Even if the look is a little different, you are indeed a member of the ‘M’ group, like it or not.

The modern day Metro. Plays a contact sport but still manages to keep up his appearance and look like a man.

The modern-day Metro. Plays a contact sport but still manages to keep up his appearance and look like a man.

It’s important to look your best. You only get one First Impression and we all know it
counts. Don’t get stuck on the label. A man who knows he wants to look good is not a sin. So man enjoy your newly found Metrosexuality!

Peace,

The Ultimate Bob

What did we learn this week?

Trust is defined as a firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability or strength of someone or something. It’s been said that trust in any relationship is one of the most important aspects. Without it, your relationship is nothing.

This week we learned that broken trust truly is the hardest thing to rebuild. Where do you begin? How do you move forward? and the hardest question still remains; Can you really ever trust someone again after they have betrayed you?

After reading many articles and racking our brain trying to come up with answers, we realized something, Betties. You can read 100 books, articles, and interviews about this topic, but one thing is certain. Unless you can get over whatever betrayal took place, you will never fully trust a person again.  You have to start by letting go. Forgive but never forget.

It’s Friday. A new week is upon us. We challenge you to try to let go of any loose ends that may be causing conflict in your relationship. Whether it be you or the other person who caused the issue. Life is too short to hold on to grudges. If you feel that a person should stay in your life for any reason; act on it. Move forward. Work together as a team and reach your goal.

Have a safe weekend!

Xo,

The Ultimate Betties

 

What Did You Learn This Week?

What Did You Learn This Week: Health in America

This week, we did not learn something of positivity but rather negativity. However, it was something we would like to share with everyone.

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We read this article on USA Today’s website: “Americans live sicker, die younger than Others.” When we read through it we were particularly surprised considering how many resources the U.S. has and have developed over the years.
“Americans consume more calories per person; are more likely to abuse drugs; less likely to wear seat belts, more likely to be in a traffic accident; and are more likely to use a firearm in acts of violence…Well-educated Americans — with medical insurance and healthy habits, such as avoiding tobacco and obesity — are still sicker than their peers abroad.” That’s scary.

We will let you read the article at your leisure. This really opened up our eyes to something we didn’t realize was going on and we hope it will do the same for you all.

As Betties it is part of our duty to help. Plus, we want all of you and our friends and family around for as long as possible! Start taking a look at how you’re living and the people around you. Help them, suggest to them how to live a little better. It may not all be just about exercise(though it does have a lot of benefits) it could be more simple than that. Help someone quit smoking, be their therapist and let’s not forget to teach our children the same things. Studies show the first 5 years of a child’s life are the most influential.

How can you help?

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

Want to be an Ultimate Bob?

What is a “Bob” you ask? Well..it is the male version of a Betty. The beliefs and rules pretty much remain the same but in a much more macho way of course.

If you are looking to ghost write for this site either using your own pseudonym or under the “Ultimate Bob” please let us know. We are always looking to add different content to The Ultimate Betty and why not a male voice?!

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E-mail us at theultimatebetty@gmail.com if you are interested. We will start by introducing our first Ultimate Bob next week, so stay tuned!

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

 

Our Top 10 Gift Ideas for Her

Yesterday we featured the top 10 gift ideas for him. Today we will do the same but gifts for your wife, girlfriend, aunt or best friend instead! All under $100.

1. Forever Friends Necklace. $69.99. A new spin on the “BFF” necklace.

2. Wine-Opoly Board Game. $19.00. Need we explain further?

3. Sephora Favorites Party Sampler. $45.00. Perfect for the make-up girl and such an awesome deal.

4. Passive-Aggressive Notes. $11. We love these, hilarious and useful.

5. Tabletop Cosmetic Organizer. $30. Have a OCD organizer or neat-freak in your life? You’re welcome.

6. Recharge and Renew. $39.99. Coffee enthusiasts rejoice, a whole package dedicated just for you.

7. Personalized Poem and Canvas. $47.95. Sweet gesture for your best friend.

8. Lomography Dreamer Camera. $65.00. For the avid photographer as a unique gift.

9. Show Me How:500 Things You Should Know. $16.49. A book that everybody should have.

10. Insulated Wine Glasses. $25.95. Set of two.

This one didn’t make our list but it should be noted:  UGG Earmuffs with Speaker Technology. $94.99. For the city girl with a cold winter.

Betties, we hope you enjoyed these gift ideas and that you and yours have a great holiday!

XO,

The Ultimate Betties