Today’s Update: The Hipster

“You used to be able to tell the difference between hipsters and homeless people. Now, it’s between hipsters and retards. I mean, either that guy in the corner in orange safety pants holding a protest sign and wearing a top hat is mentally disabled or he is the coolest fucking guy you will ever know.”

― Chuck Klosterman

Seriously. I’ve been overwhelmed with the amount of men with scruffy beards, attire that costs more than your rent (but ultimately looks like they went dumpster diving), and their stoic demeanor toward life. I’m all for free expression but come on…this is now a trend. You are no longer ‘unique’ you are a part of the crowd. Everyone with an iPhone has ‘Instagram’ – let’s face it, it takes a horrible picture and makes it looks decent. A long come the hipsters and ruin a good fucking thing. I don’t need to see your sixteen ‘Instagram’ updates of your Starbucks coffee cup, New York’s top-selling book, and your legs crossed so we can see your $200 John Varvatos. No one is impressed. Get a life. Get a job. Why are you at Starbucks reading a god damn book at 11am on a Tuesday?

On the flip side, some hipsters ARE the coolest people I know. They are extremely intelligent, laid-back, and they clearly don’t care to get a little dirty. I mean…. look at their clothes. They enjoy getting black out wasted at festivals as they bounce around to Mumford & Sons (KEY POINT: blacked out) I’m all for that. All I can really ask is that the hipster community tone down their attitudes. Stop living in denial. You probably graduated from a community college with a 2.0. Your intellectual book isn’t fooling anyone. So I want opinions, feedback, funny stories on this wacked out community….

I leave you with this

penny fears kindles because “then how are people going to know what you’re reading?”

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

What’s a text?

The other day we were having girl time with some co-workers and we got into talking about technology. The be-all and end-all of the last few generations. We then started discussing how we are fortunate because at our age we are on the cusp of knowing all the technology and still knowing the old school stuff that kids these days don’t have a clue about. (Once heard this kid ask his mother in the store what a VCR was? We about died.)

Our conversation then turned to texting, probably as we were texting. Then she made a statement that really stuck with us. Someone else told her this and it stuck with her too. We all text and sometimes we receive those random or boring texts, or so we think. But if you take a step back and think no matter if that text comes from your parent, your friends or your significant other, there is one thing in common: they thought about YOU.

They care enough to text you, leave it at that.

They care enough to text you, leave it at that.

Sure, we would all love to receive that text from that person saying something so cute but instead we open it to “waah I’m bored.” Not what you expected but they were thinking about you enough to text you. See, to us that means something for the simple fact we have all been through those times when we wanted a text of any sort from “him” or “her.”

Something is better than nothing. Be grateful you’re on their minds no matter who they are.

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

The Power Struggle

By now you should all know our list of pet peeves is ongoing, but a person who suffers from Power Struggle REALLY rubs us the wrong way. In fact, we are informing you of this so you can stop yourself in your tracks if any of this pertains to you.

 
A person who struggles with this comes off very nice, welcoming, and caring as long as you are one step below them at all times. The moment you start increasing their intimidation meter your life turns into a living hell. They will do anything in their power to make sure you are aware who is “boss” at least, “boss” in their mind.
 
The best way to respond to these types of humans is a) stand up for what you know is right at all times and b) keep to yourself. If this is a person you work with B is THE BEST choice. No one said you had to be besties with your co-workers, but you do need to make for a positive work environment.
 
Try to take their struggle as a compliment. You are a person they feel could be as good as them if not better – they just have a strange way of celebrating that in life!
 
Happy Tuesday! XO
 
The Ultimate Betties

I Forgot My Phone

When you walk into a restaurant, a movie theatre, or Starbucks how many people have their phones out? Only about 2% don’t. We live in a generation where our iPhone’s trump a one on one conversation with the person sitting right in front of us. Do we care? Maybe when we sit down to really think about it but in the moment.. no. Why? Look around. Everyone else is doing it. You wouldn’t want to look weird and NOT be doing what everyone else is.

We came across a video that disturbed us. It’s titled “I forgot my phone.” Many of you have probably already seen it, but those who haven’t, we’re curious to see your reaction. Does it disgust you as much as it disgusts other people? Is this such the norm that it really doesn’t bother you it’s just someone video recording what you see daily.

We all love social media and being tuned into everything that’s happening AS it’s happening. Don’t let that affect your real-life relationships though. If you are out to lunch with your significant other, friend, or even worse… CHILD. Please just put your phone away. What will you honestly miss within that hour that you cannot go back and look at? NOTHING. Your instagram feed will still be there, your Facebook notifications will remain a red number, and your tweets… people will still be tweeting. The world is not going to end if you set your phone down and go enjoy life.

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

 

The Frenemy

Frenemy: The type of “friend” whose words or actions bring you down (whether you realize it as intentional or not) The friend you may or may not have cornered about their quicksand like ways and keep around because “its in the past”…and so was one minute ago. The person that will continue to bring you down until you demand better for yourself.

We all have that one friend whose picture would be next to this word in a dictionary. Maybe you have known them since you were running around in Pampers or had some life changing experience with them. That does not make it OK for them to bring you down. Loyalty is great when that person deserves it. If they don’t, none of those other logistics matter.

There will come a point in your life when you finally see the light bulb go off over your head. This person is TOXIC. Regardless if it was a situation that enlightened you or maybe you matured. Either way… when that day comes it will hit you like a ton of bricks and your life will be changed. FOR.THE.BETTER. The best way to move forward from this person is to simply act like they don’t exist in your world anymore. It sounds harsh but let’s be real – they don’t. At one point in your life you were friends and yes you had memories but as we grow, we evolve into better versions of ourselves. It is okay to let go of those who no longer serve you in a positive way. We preach this A LOT. We know!

We, Betties, just strongly believe that if there’s something or someone in your life who no longer lifts you up, challenges you to do better, or genuinely has your best interest at heart; it’s time to say toodles!

This weekend when you’re out at the club with your girlfriends and run into this ‘frenemy’, don’t let her presence bother you. This world is a small one. You aren’t here to please everyone or even LIKE everyone. Do you. Surround yourself with the ones you know are good for you and the rest will fall into place. If the ‘frenemy’ tries to communicate with you. Be cordial, say hello hope all is well and move on. NOTHING and we mean NOTHING pisses off your frenemy more than to see you happy and totally OKAY without them.

Happy Thursday Lovelies.

Xo,

The Ultimate Betty

 

FOCUS.

“Our life is frittered away by detail…simplify, simplify.” — Henry David Thoreau

We recently have been feeling bogged down with everyday life. The constant need to check e-mails, text messages, Facebook notifications, tweets and keeping up with the joneses on Instagram. Those aren’t even all of the applications most people use.

We had enough. It was time for a change. We came across a free PDF (available in book form too) for easier access on the go. Focus by Leo Babauta has opened our eyes to disconnecting from technology to replenish ourselves.

We won’t spoil it for you but this is a must read. Leo has changed his life due to these techniques. He’s actually become more successful in work, lives a healthier life, and has strengthened his relationships. Why would anybody not read this book?

Go ahead and click here to read what we believe will be a life changer.

Stay Focused,
The Ultimate Betties

Guy Texts

We have a gripe, and we want to share it with our female readers.

Learn to take everything a guy says with a grain of salt..it doesn’t always mean more than what they actually say. We as women have a great way(it’s almost a skill) of making things out to be more than they are.

For example, “Johnny” texts you a random picture of something one afternoon. The thing is, you haven’t heard from J boy in a few days. Naturally, you get excited.. because we mean what girl wouldn’t? Anyways, how do you take that text: “He must still care, he wouldn’t just send me a picture of this wonderful looking plate of spaghetti for no reason.” Wrong. Truthfully it means sh*t, you may have been on his mind but all he really means by this text is he wants you to see his delicious plate of spaghetti. Plain and simple.. That’s it.

He doesn't want this, he just wants you to see how great the spaghetti looks.

He doesn’t want this, he just wants you to see how great the spaghetti looks.

Yeah it sucks, but the quicker women learn to accept what a man says as just that rather than trying to figure out the deeper meaning of it, the better. Your life will get simpler, trust us. We see this too often, we’ve figured it out.

Your turn:)

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

Paying it Forward

A personal story for our What did we learn this week:

This past week I was at work doing my thing and this man came up to the bar. Immediately, I asked him what I could get for him and he replied with “I’m just waiting to pay, and how is your night going?” I then started to tell him about how dead it had been. He finished his transaction with his waitress and proceeded to walk away.

Almost immediately he returned and upon his return I noticed a $20 bill that he had slipped under my wine opener. I looked at him and said “Sir, you don’t have to do that!” he said “let me tell you this story” :

I was in Texas at my daughters graduation from a rehab center and I took her and about 30+ other people out to eat. The bill couldn’t of been cheap, I want to say around $1800 at least. I asked for the bill and the waitress told me that it had been taken care of, needless to say I was shocked! I found out that the man sitting in the booth alone on the other side of the restaurant had paid our bill. We were told that his daughter had also attended the same rehab that my daughter had. However, she was later killed by a drunk driver, and he came into this restaurant everyday and ate alone.

As chills ran across my body I kept my eyes locked with this mans while he finished his story. He said ever since that day every time he comes into this restaurant he likes to give something back in memory of what that nice stranger did for him. Paying it forward.

I was SO touched by this story, and he taught me a lesson too. That man gave me a $20 bill and I didn’t even serve him a drink.. just to do what he felt was right. Take a lesson from this story and pay it forward every now and then. Not only will it make you feel good it will make that person feel even better.

It’s the little things in life that make the biggest difference!

XO,

East Coast Betty

Top 10 Faves on Insta

We are no different than you: we are just as tapped into Instagram as the rest. We chose our top ten favorite profiles! Definitely take a look and follow them. You will not regret it.

1. Alana Blanchard – Model/ Surfer
@alanarblanchard
2. Hypebeast – Online Fashion Magazine
@hypebeast
3. Nasty Gal – New & Vintage Clothing
@nastygal
4. Insomniac Events – EDM
@insomniacevents
5. NYC Street Art – Graffiti in NYC
@streetartnyc
6. Black Milk Clothing – Leggings
@blackmilkclothing
7. The Ultimate Fitness – Fitness Blog
@theultimatefitspo
8. Birchbox – Beauty Products
@birchbox
9. Victoria’s Secret – Lingerie
@victoriassecret
10. Pasqula Rotella – Owner of Insomniac Events
@pasqularotella

Enjoy!
Xo,
The Ultimate Betties

Although we love a good drunk text..

don’t do it!

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Here’s the thing about drunk texting, no matter what you “logically” think is acceptable to say at the time..it’s not. The next day we bet you cringe when you pick up your phone and scroll through the latest sent messages.

We have a solution, not that we use it all the time but it’s worth the try. And, yes it definitely works. By now we all have smart phones, and even if it’s not an iPhone, they all must have some sort of notepad or word pad or some kind of app you can download to write down those crazy thoughts in your head. That’s just it, when you get drunk or even when you’re sober.. whip out that phone and go to town! Curse out every dirt bag in your life if you want.

Never go through with sending it but the feeling of releasing those emotions and energies is powerful..i.e. the power of writing. Of course, do what you feel when you want to but our advice is to avoid that route at all costs and..

Our advice usually works,

The Ultimate Betties xo