Today’s Update: The Hipster

“You used to be able to tell the difference between hipsters and homeless people. Now, it’s between hipsters and retards. I mean, either that guy in the corner in orange safety pants holding a protest sign and wearing a top hat is mentally disabled or he is the coolest fucking guy you will ever know.”

― Chuck Klosterman

Seriously. I’ve been overwhelmed with the amount of men with scruffy beards, attire that costs more than your rent (but ultimately looks like they went dumpster diving), and their stoic demeanor toward life. I’m all for free expression but come on…this is now a trend. You are no longer ‘unique’ you are a part of the crowd. Everyone with an iPhone has ‘Instagram’ – let’s face it, it takes a horrible picture and makes it looks decent. A long come the hipsters and ruin a good fucking thing. I don’t need to see your sixteen ‘Instagram’ updates of your Starbucks coffee cup, New York’s top-selling book, and your legs crossed so we can see your $200 John Varvatos. No one is impressed. Get a life. Get a job. Why are you at Starbucks reading a god damn book at 11am on a Tuesday?

On the flip side, some hipsters ARE the coolest people I know. They are extremely intelligent, laid-back, and they clearly don’t care to get a little dirty. I mean…. look at their clothes. They enjoy getting black out wasted at festivals as they bounce around to Mumford & Sons (KEY POINT: blacked out) I’m all for that. All I can really ask is that the hipster community tone down their attitudes. Stop living in denial. You probably graduated from a community college with a 2.0. Your intellectual book isn’t fooling anyone. So I want opinions, feedback, funny stories on this wacked out community….

I leave you with this

penny fears kindles because “then how are people going to know what you’re reading?”

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

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VISUALIZE. BELIEVE. ATTAIN.

Nothing can prevent your picture from coming into concrete form except the same power which gave it birth – YOURSELF. – Genevieve Behrend

Happy Friday! We leave you with this quote before you enter the weekend + a new week. VISUALIZE what you want, BELIEVE in it, and you will ATTAIN exactly what you seek out.

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

 

The Single Lady

Sometimes we post so that either gender can benefit from our posts, but today is just for the ladies. We came across this website the other day and we think it would be great for all the single ladies out there.

It is called The Single Woman Guide (thesinglewomanguide.com). She answers questions on love, dating advice and the silly little questions your friends just can’t help you with. Pretty informative we must say!

Take a look, hopefully it will help a Betty out!

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

 

Monday Motivation

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What’s a text?

The other day we were having girl time with some co-workers and we got into talking about technology. The be-all and end-all of the last few generations. We then started discussing how we are fortunate because at our age we are on the cusp of knowing all the technology and still knowing the old school stuff that kids these days don’t have a clue about. (Once heard this kid ask his mother in the store what a VCR was? We about died.)

Our conversation then turned to texting, probably as we were texting. Then she made a statement that really stuck with us. Someone else told her this and it stuck with her too. We all text and sometimes we receive those random or boring texts, or so we think. But if you take a step back and think no matter if that text comes from your parent, your friends or your significant other, there is one thing in common: they thought about YOU.

They care enough to text you, leave it at that.

They care enough to text you, leave it at that.

Sure, we would all love to receive that text from that person saying something so cute but instead we open it to “waah I’m bored.” Not what you expected but they were thinking about you enough to text you. See, to us that means something for the simple fact we have all been through those times when we wanted a text of any sort from “him” or “her.”

Something is better than nothing. Be grateful you’re on their minds no matter who they are.

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

The Power Struggle

By now you should all know our list of pet peeves is ongoing, but a person who suffers from Power Struggle REALLY rubs us the wrong way. In fact, we are informing you of this so you can stop yourself in your tracks if any of this pertains to you.

 
A person who struggles with this comes off very nice, welcoming, and caring as long as you are one step below them at all times. The moment you start increasing their intimidation meter your life turns into a living hell. They will do anything in their power to make sure you are aware who is “boss” at least, “boss” in their mind.
 
The best way to respond to these types of humans is a) stand up for what you know is right at all times and b) keep to yourself. If this is a person you work with B is THE BEST choice. No one said you had to be besties with your co-workers, but you do need to make for a positive work environment.
 
Try to take their struggle as a compliment. You are a person they feel could be as good as them if not better – they just have a strange way of celebrating that in life!
 
Happy Tuesday! XO
 
The Ultimate Betties

Monday Motivation

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Monday Motivation

Look at you!

Being the sauceboxes that we are, naturally we love e-cards! Those sassy little meme’s get us through each day. Recently we came across this one: ecardsNow we all have been through this: that person you really thought you would never be OK without. Through the heartbreaks and the tears and all the other emotions you may have gone through and boom. You are actually living and breathing and doing just fine now, it’s amazing right!?

What’s even better than that feeling is the feeling you get when that person tries to come back into your life randomly and you get your chance to say “no.” It is rewarding really because at that moment you realize you are now so much stronger than you ever thought you were.

Even if you are not to this point yet, you eventually will be(it is a fact of life) and you will know exactly how we feel.

You’ll be just fine,

The Ultimate Betties xo

The Busy Body Betty

We all know of that one busy body who just can’t seem to pry out of other peoples business. She’s your Chem-lab partner, old friend from high school who spills the latest dirt every girls night out, or your co-worker. They are all around us. The question is how do you deal with it? Not every busy body is a complete and utter brat. They come in all shapes and sizes. She might even be your dearest friend but at times her gossip rants will drive you up the wall. 

First and foremost, you must know how the mind of a busy body works. Something about being “in the know” makes them feel good. Almost superior to you. They have information that you don’t. They love that! Not only do they have juicy information on someone they have ammo to spin a conversation into speaking their mind. Busy bodies THRIVE off letting people know where they stand on every single topic. When you take a step back and really break it down… it’s sad. These people clearly want to feel accepted and this is how they have been able to do so. 

The next time you come across a busy body remember to take what they say with a grain of salt. Don’t allow their information to sway how you feel about someone or a situation. They have their opinion and you are more than welcome to have yours. If you don’t agree with something: VOICE IT. If you like the person they are bad mouthing: TELL THEM. Any busy body can immediately be shut down by the truth because they want to be accepted. Once they sense you are not into what they are saying…. they will stop. They feel defeated. Embarrassed. As if they are no longer accepted. 

If something bothers you, Betties, you have the control to make it stop. 

Xo, 

The Ultimate Betties

Monday Inspiration

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Mondays don’t have to be such a downer. This is a reminder of that! Think positive. Set yourself up for a great week!

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

 

Little Emotions

Alright, so let’s jump right into this. Last time you had a trust issue with someone: a friend, a boyfriend, a steady hook-up, whomever, how did it make you feel? Mad or jealous? But did you sit back and think if that particular emotion was because of you or because of them. Did they make you mad or jealous or is that an emotion you’re evoking all on your own?

We (especially women) have a tendency to get jealous because we view other women as direct competition. Do you ever sit back and look at guys’ relationships…they all get a long because well they’re wired differently than us. Unless, maybe when it comes to a female, men just go with the flow and let the petty emotions roll off their backs. Females get jealous of too much. Yes, we are openly admitting our flaws right now but it’s real!

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We we’re recently in a situation where our close friends new “beau” was going to meet up with a friend of his for coffee who just happened to be a girl. Our friend immediately got jealous and contacted us. Now, they aren’t officially together but they are more than just a hook-up..it’s that in-between relationship that we all know too well. Does she have the right to be jealous? It is understandable, but we let her know that she has male friends too and if the situation was reversed wouldn’t she want him to trust her.

Especially that he flat-out told her what he was going to do, we think that’s a great sign! The next move is tricky..she can show any emotion she wants to us but to him is it worth it? This brings us back to the beginning, was she jealous because he was going with an unknown girl or because it’s a lack of knowing how great she is and she shouldn’t let something this small get to her.

When they’re hiding something and you find out..that’s where the issue lies but we Betties are smarter than to let that happen 😉

xo,

The Betties

I Forgot My Phone

When you walk into a restaurant, a movie theatre, or Starbucks how many people have their phones out? Only about 2% don’t. We live in a generation where our iPhone’s trump a one on one conversation with the person sitting right in front of us. Do we care? Maybe when we sit down to really think about it but in the moment.. no. Why? Look around. Everyone else is doing it. You wouldn’t want to look weird and NOT be doing what everyone else is.

We came across a video that disturbed us. It’s titled “I forgot my phone.” Many of you have probably already seen it, but those who haven’t, we’re curious to see your reaction. Does it disgust you as much as it disgusts other people? Is this such the norm that it really doesn’t bother you it’s just someone video recording what you see daily.

We all love social media and being tuned into everything that’s happening AS it’s happening. Don’t let that affect your real-life relationships though. If you are out to lunch with your significant other, friend, or even worse… CHILD. Please just put your phone away. What will you honestly miss within that hour that you cannot go back and look at? NOTHING. Your instagram feed will still be there, your Facebook notifications will remain a red number, and your tweets… people will still be tweeting. The world is not going to end if you set your phone down and go enjoy life.

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

 

Inspiration Mondays

After the weekend, between the partying, sleeping, chatting with friends and the oh so unwanted drama you’re now back at work. Wah. But never fear we are going to provide you with your Monday inspiration because let’s be honest..sometimes we all need a feel better, feel good quote. So….

Enjoy!

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xo,

The Ultimate Betties

 

The Frenemy

Frenemy: The type of “friend” whose words or actions bring you down (whether you realize it as intentional or not) The friend you may or may not have cornered about their quicksand like ways and keep around because “its in the past”…and so was one minute ago. The person that will continue to bring you down until you demand better for yourself.

We all have that one friend whose picture would be next to this word in a dictionary. Maybe you have known them since you were running around in Pampers or had some life changing experience with them. That does not make it OK for them to bring you down. Loyalty is great when that person deserves it. If they don’t, none of those other logistics matter.

There will come a point in your life when you finally see the light bulb go off over your head. This person is TOXIC. Regardless if it was a situation that enlightened you or maybe you matured. Either way… when that day comes it will hit you like a ton of bricks and your life will be changed. FOR.THE.BETTER. The best way to move forward from this person is to simply act like they don’t exist in your world anymore. It sounds harsh but let’s be real – they don’t. At one point in your life you were friends and yes you had memories but as we grow, we evolve into better versions of ourselves. It is okay to let go of those who no longer serve you in a positive way. We preach this A LOT. We know!

We, Betties, just strongly believe that if there’s something or someone in your life who no longer lifts you up, challenges you to do better, or genuinely has your best interest at heart; it’s time to say toodles!

This weekend when you’re out at the club with your girlfriends and run into this ‘frenemy’, don’t let her presence bother you. This world is a small one. You aren’t here to please everyone or even LIKE everyone. Do you. Surround yourself with the ones you know are good for you and the rest will fall into place. If the ‘frenemy’ tries to communicate with you. Be cordial, say hello hope all is well and move on. NOTHING and we mean NOTHING pisses off your frenemy more than to see you happy and totally OKAY without them.

Happy Thursday Lovelies.

Xo,

The Ultimate Betty

 

22 Rules to Life

Happy Monday Betties! We were browsing the web earlier and stumbled across this list of the “22 Rules to Life.” We liked it so much we thought we would share it with you.

1.) Never stop thinking. This is important. If someone ever says to you “you need to stop thinking so much,” call them ignorant in your head and keep thinking deeper. It is this mentality that breeds stupid people. Your mind is the most important thing you have, if you stop using it, it will atrophy.

2.) Stare into space blankly and don’t mentally punish yourself for doing it, even if it is for that split second.

3.) Don’t be afraid to talk about anything. You shouldn’t be afraid of reality.

4.) Everyone is a hypocrite.

5.) You are all original. Every life experience is case-sensitive and unique. Every time you wake up or quote someone else, you are becoming more you than anyone has ever been.

6.) Do pointless things. Don’t actively restrain or hide yourself from the redundant.

7.) Stop rushing. Shut up and embrace the sound of silence.

8.) Religion shouldn’t be taught, it should be found. No one should tell you what to believe except for you.

9.) Talking to yourself is healthy. Is there anyone you have more in common with?

10.) There is no such thing as time. The sun never sets or rises. Days and years don’t exist. There is only your life.

11.) We will always be in a transitional phase. Look outside and know that everything will be replaced at some point. This existence is temporary.

12.) It’s not half empty or half full. It’s half a glass.

13.) Every now and then, you take something that you see everyday and try to see it in a different light. Renew its resistance.

14.) Be happy, but don’t force it.

15.) You will always succeed in trying.

16.) We are all crazy.

17.) We are all about as similar as we are different.

18.) Ideas are about as valuable as people.

19.) Words will always be just words. Love is just another four letter word, only the feeling is real.

20.) Ask a child for advice. They may not know much, but they know what’s important.

21.) Prove you’re alive. Do anything from dancing in the supermarket to taking an impulse trip to another country. Remind the world you are still here.

22.) Don’t take anything seriously.

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Check up on these every now and then, a little reminder and thought never hurt anyone.

XO,

The Ultimate Betties