As a Pisces dreaming is a natural reaction for us. We are so far from reality it’s almost another planet to us. This is the main reason a Pisces taps into their bedtime dreams so heavily. For us, we believe it to be a sign. A way to dig deeper into what we’re trying to suppress or allow to break free.

Last night was intense. So many random objects, colors, and hidden meanings. You know when you’re in a dream that’s scary and you subconsciously know waking up will bring you to your reality. It will put a halt to your fears. That was one of the biggest signs that we, as people, need to stop being afraid. When you are afraid you miss out on some of the greatest gifts in life. Whether it be your dream job, going back to school, mending broken relationships, and so on. If you can shake yourself from all your fears your REALITY will be far better than any negative thought or scenario you place in your mind.

It’s easy to become stagnant due to fear. You want to stay in your little cube of comfort and never step out of those four imaginary lines. Well, if you don’t, you will forever wonder which will eventually turn into resentment.

Do us a favor, wait… do YOURSELF a favor and break free of your fears. Take a leap of faith. Follow your dreams. Fall in love. Go skydiving. Whatever your fear is: face it head on. You might feel silly for allowing yourself to feel scared when really it was the greatest experience of your life.

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One day you’re sitting there and you let your mind wander to la-la-land and you realize your life is not what you want it to be. What do you do? Where do you go from here?

That’s a tough one, we agree. But we can assure you there is one thing you can do, explore. Explore every option and see where life takes you. We have realized lately, you can’t have all work and no play but vice versa, too much playing and no substance won’t work for long either. Sure. we’d all like to live like Richie Rich for a while but there has to more to life.

exploreSomeone told us recently something along the lines of..there is far too much going on in this world to ever be bored or stagnant. That really made us think about things. We can’t let so much hold us back and you shouldn’t either.

Get out there! See the world, meet someone new, just do something different from you are used to doing. You never know what might happen.


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1. Road Trips

Summer’s filled with so many fun activities: BBQ‘s, Bonfire’s at the Beach, Water Parks, River Trips, and the most important of all; spontaneous road trips. How many times have you been with a group of friends (probably far from sober) and decided to drive to California, Vegas, or a getaway to the Hampton’s? We don’t have enough fingers to keep count. So over the years of being vagabond Barbie’s we have come up with a list of Road Trip Essentials. Keep this in a note on your iPhone or somewhere you will actually read this. Especially if you have consumed one too many vodka crans.

  1. Pack light (swimsuit, cover ups, your VS collection, makeup, and going out dresses)
  2. Snacks (water, fruit, chips & salsa, nuts, etc)
  3. For those who don’t have XM radio PLEASE bring an iPod or have music downloaded on your phone. THIS IS A LIFESAVER! Who wants to drive in silence? NOT US.
  4. The Bible (Vogue) That will keep you entertained for a while.
  5. Camera
  6. Map or GPS
  7. Pillow/Blanket for your beauty sleep. We all know you won’t get any once you have reached your destination.
  8. Car kit (gallon of water, canister of oil, flare lights, or daddy’s AAA card)

These are just a few, we could go on and on, but it would become too OCD and defeat the purpose of ‘spontaneous trips’


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Single, Sassy, & Proud of IT!

Friday’s are dedicated to “What we learned” this week, but not today. A fan of ours posted a picture on Instagram that made us feel compelled to dedicate today’s post to being single.

Traditionally speaking being single is looked down upon. Especially the older we get. People will gossip and judge at weddings and say, ‘She’s pushing 26 can you believe she is still single?’ First off, we are firm believers that there is no RIGHT age to be married. We also feel that your twenties are meant for soul searching. If the person you are with now can deal with your mood swings all through your golden years; he’s probably a keeper. If he can’t…. on to the next one.

Our generation is very fortunate. Woman are completely empowered. More woman go to school than men. More woman these days are climbing the corporate ladder and even owning their own businesses. Basically, we aren’t just put on this earth to find our ‘true love’ and become the next stepford wife. We are able to explore and fulfill OUR dreams. If you aren’t already married or have a child (hell even if you do have a child) this is the time to travel, try out different career paths, enroll in school, go out with your girlfriends, and explore your options for dating.

Unless someone comes along that lifts you up, supports you in any endeavor, and allows you space to breathe – don’t settle. You are amazing and it should take a lot for someone to swoop you off the market. Once you are in a relationship everything becomes “we” or “us”. That person has to be extremely special. If they aren’t – have fun and let yourself be selfish. Until you are 100% in love with yourself you can never fully love another person.

So next time you are at a social gathering, ignore those glares, and be proud for taking this time to find yourself. More importantly, be proud that you didn’t settle for some schmuck who really doesn’t care about you, your well-being, and supports yours dreams and goals. We have come too far Betties to go back now.


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Take a Risk

Lately, we’ve been thinking of doing something out of our comfort zone. Everyone has their view on what a risk really is because let’s be honest not everyone has the same comfort level.

For us, doing something like bungee jumping, skydiving or anything outdoors that provides that rush of excitement and fear is slightly out of our zone. However, it’s always looming in the back of our heads.

Time is ticking and in life the best experiences we’ve had are the ones we either least expected to happen or were afraid of happening. The more you make everyday or every week exciting and facing your fears the better life will become.


Have you done anything out of your comfort zone? If you have please let us know about your experience!


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Ten Things NOT to say

Betties —

Over the years we have heard many dating stories. We thought it was time to put a little list together of things NOT to say. If its date number 1 or you’ve been casually hooking up for months; spare yourself the embarrassment PLEASE. Wait until he’s in love with you before you start dropping these bombs.

1. I told my therapist about you — Issues party of 1 your table is ready. We’ve all seen a third-party to help us but keep this to yourself. It’s meant to be private.

2. My ex… — STOP RIGHT THERE. Next…

3. When we’re married/have kids — until this is something you’ve spoken about on a serious level (not stoned off special brownies) don’t speak of this

4. You think she’s hotter than me, don’t you? — Confidence is sexy. If he’s with you it’s because he WANTS to be. Don’t ruin it by saying something like this.

5. Awww it’s so cute and little — If you say this either a) run or b) you’re joking, he’s not laughing, and you’re still in your six month drought.

6. Do you want to see pictures of my cats? — Guys usually don’t want to know you treat your pet like a child. It freaks them out.

7. My baby daddy’s new girlfriend is such a stalker —…. No explanation needed.

8. I hate (insert body part here) — again, confidence is sexy. Also, Most of the time what you hate he doesn’t see so now you just look insecure.

9. Can you go buy me some Tampons? — We don’t even let our best girlfriends do this for us so please don’t humiliate him by asking this.

10. Birth Control? No! I don’t believe in that. — If you are trying to get that ‘stage five’ clinger away from you this works every time… Otherwise NEVER UTTER THESE WORDS.

We feel like these are pretty obvious but sometimes it’s easy to get ‘blinded by love’. Mystery is always good in a relationship especially the beginning.

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Man, Woman or Metrosexual?

[me-troh-sek-shoo-uh l]

1. A heterosexual, usually urban male who pays much attention to his personal appearance and cultivates an upscale lifestyle.

So everyone is throwing this ‘M’ word around like it’s some kind of bad thing. When you
look back at 40 or more years of our culture, think about all the snazzy outfits that have evolved from the 60s through the 70s and continue to this day. They are always changing but haven’t guys always cared about how cool they looked, even though they are duty bound not to admit it?

Most men are Metrosexual but few will admit it. If you’re on your way out the door to
work, to tennis, to the gym, going out with your buddies or on a date and you pause for a
moment at the front door and look at yourself in the mirror, you got to admit how you look
matters. Even if the look is a little different, you are indeed a member of the ‘M’ group, like it or not.

The modern day Metro. Plays a contact sport but still manages to keep up his appearance and look like a man.

The modern-day Metro. Plays a contact sport but still manages to keep up his appearance and look like a man.

It’s important to look your best. You only get one First Impression and we all know it
counts. Don’t get stuck on the label. A man who knows he wants to look good is not a sin. So man enjoy your newly found Metrosexuality!


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What did we learn this week?

Trust is defined as a firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability or strength of someone or something. It’s been said that trust in any relationship is one of the most important aspects. Without it, your relationship is nothing.

This week we learned that broken trust truly is the hardest thing to rebuild. Where do you begin? How do you move forward? and the hardest question still remains; Can you really ever trust someone again after they have betrayed you?

After reading many articles and racking our brain trying to come up with answers, we realized something, Betties. You can read 100 books, articles, and interviews about this topic, but one thing is certain. Unless you can get over whatever betrayal took place, you will never fully trust a person again.  You have to start by letting go. Forgive but never forget.

It’s Friday. A new week is upon us. We challenge you to try to let go of any loose ends that may be causing conflict in your relationship. Whether it be you or the other person who caused the issue. Life is too short to hold on to grudges. If you feel that a person should stay in your life for any reason; act on it. Move forward. Work together as a team and reach your goal.

Have a safe weekend!


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Keep Calm & Be Polite

Time to vent Betties! This one goes out to all of those who put up with their Bob’s buddies. If Bob has a solid crew: pat yourself on the back, open a new tab, and go browse Victoria’s Secret swim line.

We will guesstimate that nine out ten readers have this so-called “buddy” in his boxers on their couch. Okay! Maybe that’s a bit dramatic. How are you supposed to act when you and Bob’s best friend don’t get along? Here’s how:

1. Spend time apart. (You should be doing this anyways — it’s healthy) this way he can spend time with the guys and doesn’t feel stuck choosing one relationship over the other.
2. Don’t discuss this person. It’s not a bad thing to not discuss someone who might later create drama.
3. BE CORDIAL! Say hello and goodbye. Truthfully, you don’t need to say much more. It’s impolite not to acknowledge a person entering or exiting a room.

There’s always the fourth and most ideal option: get to know them. Maybe you two are similar? Maybe there’s something about this person that would change your opinion of them? Either way, outside opinions shouldn’t dictate your relationship status. Take what people say with a grain of salt. Trust those who try to help dim your ‘love blinders’ in certain situations. Otherwise, follow your heart and try to maintain your betty-like demeanor through the drama.

For relationship advice, pointers, or just a listening ear –
email us theultimatebetty@gmail.com subject line: Dear Betty

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Things We Love: Knock Knock Products

Every now and then we come across products that we absolutely love and of course we want to share them all with you!

Knock Knock products are for the comedians, the passive aggressive types, the dysfunctional ones and of course the writers. We say this with love and well, because it’s true. Once you look through some of their products you’ll love them.

They offer; journals, notepads, stamps, sticky notes, stuff for your dorm room and more!


They make their products so fun and unique that even if it is a note that starts off with “things you do that really piss me off” it’s still lighthearted.

We originally found one of Knock Knock‘s mini journals at Pier One. While flipping through it and laughing at the random quotes and sarcastic nature we decided we had to find more products and more products we found!

The office products are sure to help ease some tension when your boss tells you something you don’t want to hear.

Check out their site (Knock Knock Stuff) for even more fab finds. Another great idea for a Christmas gift!


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“The only constant in life is change,” it is inevitable and that’s life.

If you don’t like something..change it. So simple to say, but change may be very hard to do. We could fill this entire post up with amazing quotes, pictures and stories on change, but instead we are going to try to give out a little inspiration for anyone who needs that extra push. Why? Because sometimes we need that extra push to change things in our lives as well.

Change is probably one of the hardest things to do. Some people embrace it and simply need it all the time, some hate it and live their life their way and that’s that. But there are people who want change and are hesitant to take that leap. It tends to happen for a reason and usually that reason leads to a better life and opportunities. We Betties, we have gone through a lot of change in our lives from living in different states, starting and ending relationships to new friends and changing our majors in college (time and time again).

One big way to tell if you may need change in your life is your moods. If your moods are like a roller coaster and you’re not going through menopause, you need a change. Maybe your life is stagnant, which causes you to feel down. One word: CHANGE. Quit complaining and get out there and do something new!

Please challenge yourself. Not only is it a form of change but it will make you feel so good once you’ve accomplished whatever it was you were trying for.

1. Be positive. Make that invisible cup go from half empty to half full..all of the time.
2. Change up your routine from time to time, take a new route to work, read instead of watching television, shower in the morning instead of at night or vice-versa.
3. Get in contact with an old friend or make time for the friends you have now that you rarely see anymore.

The older you get the harder it is to change something drastically, so do the bigger changing while you’re in your 20’s and 30’s.

Big Change:
1. Quit your job, if you’re miserable. Try something new, you have time to dabble.
“I love my job, if you ask me anyone who hates their jobs have no one to blame but themselves. We make our own destinies and I’ve made a sweet one here.” –Horrible Bosses

2. Move to a new town, city or state. Hell, move to a new country. It’s super nerve-wracking, we have both done it but it provides a new experience, and new friends. Even if you only stay for a couple of months.
3. Try learning something new. Make a bucket list and start doing the things you wrote down on the list.

Be inspired to change, to start something new. It’s really never too late, and life is short. Make your life exciting!

Do you have any creative ways of changing things up in your life? Let us know.

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