22 Rules to Life

Happy Monday Betties! We were browsing the web earlier and stumbled across this list of the “22 Rules to Life.” We liked it so much we thought we would share it with you.

1.) Never stop thinking. This is important. If someone ever says to you “you need to stop thinking so much,” call them ignorant in your head and keep thinking deeper. It is this mentality that breeds stupid people. Your mind is the most important thing you have, if you stop using it, it will atrophy.

2.) Stare into space blankly and don’t mentally punish yourself for doing it, even if it is for that split second.

3.) Don’t be afraid to talk about anything. You shouldn’t be afraid of reality.

4.) Everyone is a hypocrite.

5.) You are all original. Every life experience is case-sensitive and unique. Every time you wake up or quote someone else, you are becoming more you than anyone has ever been.

6.) Do pointless things. Don’t actively restrain or hide yourself from the redundant.

7.) Stop rushing. Shut up and embrace the sound of silence.

8.) Religion shouldn’t be taught, it should be found. No one should tell you what to believe except for you.

9.) Talking to yourself is healthy. Is there anyone you have more in common with?

10.) There is no such thing as time. The sun never sets or rises. Days and years don’t exist. There is only your life.

11.) We will always be in a transitional phase. Look outside and know that everything will be replaced at some point. This existence is temporary.

12.) It’s not half empty or half full. It’s half a glass.

13.) Every now and then, you take something that you see everyday and try to see it in a different light. Renew its resistance.

14.) Be happy, but don’t force it.

15.) You will always succeed in trying.

16.) We are all crazy.

17.) We are all about as similar as we are different.

18.) Ideas are about as valuable as people.

19.) Words will always be just words. Love is just another four letter word, only the feeling is real.

20.) Ask a child for advice. They may not know much, but they know what’s important.

21.) Prove you’re alive. Do anything from dancing in the supermarket to taking an impulse trip to another country. Remind the world you are still here.

22.) Don’t take anything seriously.

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Check up on these every now and then, a little reminder and thought never hurt anyone.

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

 

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The grass could be greener

We all know the saying:

The grass isn’t always greener on the other side.

Well we call BS! Obviously it has and can definitely be proven true but when we hear that saying it just makes us think negatively. These Betties are always “half full” so we do our best to push the negativity out of our lives.

Just because you’re not particularly happy in the situation you may be in currently, does not mean you have to stay there. Everyone is putting the bug in your ear that what may be your next move won’t prove as hopeful as you’d like. They’re the ones who are missing out, not you.

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They may be right, it could turn out to be a worse situation but again, you never know until you try. At least you will have that one up on them, taking chances and learning new things.

Moving up or on never hurt anyone in the long run. Do what you want!

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

Single, Sassy, & Proud of IT!

Friday’s are dedicated to “What we learned” this week, but not today. A fan of ours posted a picture on Instagram that made us feel compelled to dedicate today’s post to being single.

Traditionally speaking being single is looked down upon. Especially the older we get. People will gossip and judge at weddings and say, ‘She’s pushing 26 can you believe she is still single?’ First off, we are firm believers that there is no RIGHT age to be married. We also feel that your twenties are meant for soul searching. If the person you are with now can deal with your mood swings all through your golden years; he’s probably a keeper. If he can’t…. on to the next one.

Our generation is very fortunate. Woman are completely empowered. More woman go to school than men. More woman these days are climbing the corporate ladder and even owning their own businesses. Basically, we aren’t just put on this earth to find our ‘true love’ and become the next stepford wife. We are able to explore and fulfill OUR dreams. If you aren’t already married or have a child (hell even if you do have a child) this is the time to travel, try out different career paths, enroll in school, go out with your girlfriends, and explore your options for dating.

Unless someone comes along that lifts you up, supports you in any endeavor, and allows you space to breathe – don’t settle. You are amazing and it should take a lot for someone to swoop you off the market. Once you are in a relationship everything becomes “we” or “us”. That person has to be extremely special. If they aren’t – have fun and let yourself be selfish. Until you are 100% in love with yourself you can never fully love another person.

So next time you are at a social gathering, ignore those glares, and be proud for taking this time to find yourself. More importantly, be proud that you didn’t settle for some schmuck who really doesn’t care about you, your well-being, and supports yours dreams and goals. We have come too far Betties to go back now.

Xo,

The Ultimate Betties

Take a Risk

Lately, we’ve been thinking of doing something out of our comfort zone. Everyone has their view on what a risk really is because let’s be honest not everyone has the same comfort level.

For us, doing something like bungee jumping, skydiving or anything outdoors that provides that rush of excitement and fear is slightly out of our zone. However, it’s always looming in the back of our heads.

Time is ticking and in life the best experiences we’ve had are the ones we either least expected to happen or were afraid of happening. The more you make everyday or every week exciting and facing your fears the better life will become.

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Have you done anything out of your comfort zone? If you have please let us know about your experience!

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

Summer Fragrances

Summer is here! As we all know, it’s filled with beautiful weather, lavish vacations, cute boys, and itty bitty bikini’s. It’s our favorite time of the year! We want to share with our top ten favorite fragrances so you can smell lovely all throughout the hot summer days.

  1. Signorina – Salvatore Ferragamo
  2. Candy – Prada
  3. Daisy – Marc Jacobs
  4. Acqua Di Gio – Giorgio Armani
  5. Especially Escada – Escada
  6. photo 2Desire – Dolce & Gabana
  7. Miss Dior – Dior
  8. Cherry In the Air – Escada
  9. Beach – Bobbi Brown
  10. Flowers – Philosophy

These can be found at any department store or Sephora. Go check them out and see which one fits your summer personality.

Happy Wednesday!

Xo,

West Coast Betty

 

Gatsby

We don’t usually do write-ups or reviews on movies, and we wouldn’t call this a review but after seeing the 2013 version of The Great Gatsby, we were moved.

In 8th or 9th grade we read the book, day-by-day, analyzing the plot, climax and character synopsis. After finishing the short read we were instantly in-love. To this day it is still regarded as one of the best American Novels ever written.

This is the third version of the book adapted into film and it’s incredible. The scenery, lighting and cast were very well thought out and planned. When we don’t find ourselves squirming around in our seats during a 2+ hour movie then we know it’s a great one.

Whether you’ve read the book or not, go see the movie. We promise it won’t be a disappointment (although our crush on Leo may have pushed our liking of the movie that much higher).

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Go see it..

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

Resilience

What did we learn this week? A Betty who can master being resilient will always be fen steps ahead of you.

Resilience is defined as the ability to recover readily from illness, depression, adversity, or the like; buoyancy.

For example: you have worked for an ass of a boss for two years. He promised you a raise and promotion. Instead, he fires you. You had your heart set on that. Not to mention, many financial goals and plans based off your new raise. Instead of moping or plotting your revenge; be resilient. Brush it off and go find something better.

In life you have to learn to bounce back from everything. Those who dwell on things can never move forward in a positive way.

So next time life hits you with a curveball remember to be resilient.

Xo,
The Ultimate Betty

Never doubt a female..seriously.

Anything you can do I can do better.

Remember that little chant growing up? Well, last night one of these Betties got to prove just how right it can be.

I had a little build-it-yourself storage shelf to put together. As I texted one of my male friends the picture of what I was about to assemble he replied with “not a shot in hell you’re going to put that together. Do you even have tools?” Immediately, I shot back that I would now definitely make sure it gets put together.

There is nothing like the doubt of a person to make another person want something more. I was so determined, it didn’t matter how long it took (an hour btw). Between the doubt and the tools remark, I wasn’t about to let a guy make me feel inferior.

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We gals do what we want.

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

Bite your Tongue!

Betties, this one is going to be short and sweet and this is why; because we say what we want when we want. Seriously.

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The older we get and the more situations that we encounter, the more we learn to truly speak our minds. Growing up, we tried to bite our tongues when we were mad in lieu of keeping ourselves on the safe side. Not any more honey, say what you want!

Speak that mind of yours. Someone put you down? Leave you high and dry with no explanation about why they wanted out? Or perhaps they just annoy the ever-living sh*t out of you. Tell them what has been eating at you all this time. If you choose to put it nicely, so be it but don’t hold back your feelings too long. Everyone should say what they want and ask the questions they need to acquire the answers they deserve.

And remember to not feel bad about it once it’s over. People will respect the blunt truth over the hiding of a lie, just to avoid feelings or awkwardness.

..At one point it is what you wanted to say.

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

The Giving Tree

Are you the type of person who constantly gives? to the point where it’s a major fault and leaves you feeling depleted? Everyone occasionally feels like this, but there is definitely a ‘type’ of person out there that gives until they have absolutely nothing.

We are very into astrology (we always take it with a grain of salt) but one particular horoscope this week stuck out to us. “Being a giver is wonderful – as long as the recipients are worth of your gifts.

We aren’t advising you to become the worlds biggest bitch and say no so much it’s the only word in your vocabulary. However, putting yourself first is healthy. It’s vital to making yourself happy as well as successful. Everyone is always preaching that givers are far more rewarded than takers. MAYBE that is true BUT at what point will YOU be the one who is taking a little while others give to you. It has to be just the right type of balance.

Never let anyone take advantage of you or make you feel that you cannot get things accomplished YOU need to because their tasks are more important. It’s healthy to say no every now and then. Never stretch yourself too thin. The only person that hurts is YOU.

Xo,

West Coast Betty

All those eggs..

Do you find that you put them into that little basket..too often? Yeah, it’s a problem with most people and we’re trying to teach ourselves a new technique.

You see, men, a lot of them always have a back-up plan. For an example, (sorry bobs) they always have something or someone there for them when things go wrong, or a back-up plan if something fails. It could be pig-ish or it could be genius. If we get over the fact that this is absolute truth and move on to the fact that it’s actually a smart move..snaps for the smart men out there.

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We’ve learned this past week again, not to believe everything we hear and be content with what we have. There is far too much going on in the world and around us everyday to have our minds set on just ONE person or ONE job or ONE thing. Don’t get us wrong, if you have a great job and a great relationship, congratulations! You achieved what you wanted but for the rest of us still trying to get that job or find that perfect mate, take that old idiom and use it.

Just stay true to you and good things will come your way. Promise.

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

Familiarity

Recently, we heard this saying or quote if you will:

What feels familiar is not always best.

Now, we all know some variation of this is true. However, in the context of the discussion we were in it was something completely different from what we expected. We are referring to the “type” of people you, I, or We are attracted to.

Say we are attracted to the quiet type, or the opposite the obnoxious type. Trial after trial we seek out these types because it is familiar. Yet, if you back up and see your pattern and realize that it’s not working out for you with that “type” try something new. It will be different, yes, but different doesn’t always mean bad.

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You never know who will make you happy unless you give them a chance. Step outside of your typical comfort zone and get used to meeting new people. The best friendships and relationships are usually unexpected and when you’re not looking for one. Instead of searching out the same kind d-bag that you always seem to, let someone different approach you. Hopefully, you will give them a chance!

Be real,

The Ultimate Betties xo

 

YOU are who YOU associate YOURSELF with

After a wonderful weekend spent star gazing at Coachella we are back to reality. Monday Blues. Wah!

Spending a weekend with such beautiful people makes you realize a lot. The worst part of it all: our parents were right. Remember that saying “you are who you associate yourself with”, the one that always made you shriek as you were walking out the door with your worst crew of friends; trying to pretend like they were angels. Yeah. Apparently, our parents wisdom reached us during an epiphany at the greatest music festival since Woodstock. Standard.

The people in which you decide to spend time with, essentially will affect the person you become. It all sounds very clichè but we’ve seen it happen. Imagine the five closest people to you. Are they the type who party and trash daddy’s beach house? Are they successful? Even if they aren’t now, do they have dreams they are working toward? See… All of this matters. It does reflect upon you what others around you are doing.

Make sure you surround yourself with those who will lift you up, challenge you to do better, and tell you when you need to get your shit straight.

XO,
The Ultimate Bettie’s

Great Sexpectations

So, lets just say you are hooking up with two different guys and you find yourself in a predicament. When we say hooking up, we know how we mean it but take it for what it’s worth.

A friend of ours came to us recently and told us about her most recent hook-up, and a new guy shes been talking to. The problem is: she isn’t over the first one but he seems to be over her. Shitty situation but let’s be real..this happens to all of us at some point in time. One person is always most interested than their counterpart.

That being said we gave her our honest opinion: keep your options open. Here’s the thing about humans, we want what we can’t have. Once guy #1 realizes he can’t just call you up randomly always expecting you to be there for him..suddenly you are the apple of his eye again. But don’t fall for it, never fall for it. Unless you can seriously lock up those emotions are through that key far into the ocean.

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We say give guy number two a chance or let him be a distraction from guy one. Whatever works for you better. Either way move the f**k on Betties! Too many other things apart of this world to explore. Go exploring!

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

Empathy

Hey Betties and Bobbies,

This is my first official entry as a Bobby, so here is a little back story into my work profile. I went to school for Fashion Design. I know.. hold your “what a typical bobby” scoff, until I finish. My mom passed away while I was attending school, so I never ended up finishing. I had this whole late teens/early 20’s crisis, and decided that it wasn’t for me. That is when I settled to work in the hospitality industry. I am, by no means, turning my nose up at ANY position in this field. In all of my experience, they literally are the hardest working people. Even if someone says “it’s the easiest job in the world”. Yeah, okay. It’s easy. However, there is far more to it than meets the eye.

Though I now have a career in the fashion industry, I still continue to bartend and serve because the people I work with, and work for are amazing. I have been there for 6 years, and they have literally become my family. I have seen so many people, come and go. ‘This one is a teacher, this one is a nurse, this one is a doctor’ so please be mindful of “the bitch who didn’t bring you a diet coke” or “the asshole who forgot your ranch dressing.” As I said before, yes, some may say it’s the easiest job but just like everyone else in the world, they are people too. You don’t know what is going on behind the scenes in the life of your server/bartender/hostess.
Yes, some will say, when you walk in the doors, your personal issues stay outside. THAT IS NEVER THE CASE AND YOU KNOW IT. That has to be some Jedi mind trick that no one has ever taught me, and I don’t believe it’s true. Do I put on a fake smile sometimes? Absolutely. Will I ever be rude to a customer because I’m having a bad day/week/month? Never. However, if you don’t treat me like a human being, I’m certainly not going to give you the same respect. So, the next time you say to yourself, “Wow, this service sucks”, take a different approach. That normal protocol of not tipping or asking to speak to the manager, because option A.) you just made that server pay for your meal or option B.) you potentially just got that person fired from a minimum wage job. If someone came into your job, wherever it may be and was rude to you, what would you do?

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The point I’m trying to make here is all about: EMPATHY. This is totally not a religious, Jesus, rant. It’s about treating others with respect, WE ARE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER. No matter what, the common denominator is that we are all made of skin, bones, and blood. We all have a brain, and just because you have the time to go sit at a restaurant, does not make you any more superior than the person serving you your food and drinks. Just keep that in mind the next time you go out for dinner, or have a Betties night out. That girl serving you, and your Betties cosmos, COULD BE WITH HER BETTIES, having cosmos, but instead she is there taking care of YOU. Take the time to realize that and treat her right.)

xoxo,

Bobby