Today’s Update: The Hipster

“You used to be able to tell the difference between hipsters and homeless people. Now, it’s between hipsters and retards. I mean, either that guy in the corner in orange safety pants holding a protest sign and wearing a top hat is mentally disabled or he is the coolest fucking guy you will ever know.”

― Chuck Klosterman

Seriously. I’ve been overwhelmed with the amount of men with scruffy beards, attire that costs more than your rent (but ultimately looks like they went dumpster diving), and their stoic demeanor toward life. I’m all for free expression but come on…this is now a trend. You are no longer ‘unique’ you are a part of the crowd. Everyone with an iPhone has ‘Instagram’ – let’s face it, it takes a horrible picture and makes it looks decent. A long come the hipsters and ruin a good fucking thing. I don’t need to see your sixteen ‘Instagram’ updates of your Starbucks coffee cup, New York’s top-selling book, and your legs crossed so we can see your $200 John Varvatos. No one is impressed. Get a life. Get a job. Why are you at Starbucks reading a god damn book at 11am on a Tuesday?

On the flip side, some hipsters ARE the coolest people I know. They are extremely intelligent, laid-back, and they clearly don’t care to get a little dirty. I mean…. look at their clothes. They enjoy getting black out wasted at festivals as they bounce around to Mumford & Sons (KEY POINT: blacked out) I’m all for that. All I can really ask is that the hipster community tone down their attitudes. Stop living in denial. You probably graduated from a community college with a 2.0. Your intellectual book isn’t fooling anyone. So I want opinions, feedback, funny stories on this wacked out community….

I leave you with this

penny fears kindles because “then how are people going to know what you’re reading?”

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

I Forgot My Phone

When you walk into a restaurant, a movie theatre, or Starbucks how many people have their phones out? Only about 2% don’t. We live in a generation where our iPhone’s trump a one on one conversation with the person sitting right in front of us. Do we care? Maybe when we sit down to really think about it but in the moment.. no. Why? Look around. Everyone else is doing it. You wouldn’t want to look weird and NOT be doing what everyone else is.

We came across a video that disturbed us. It’s titled “I forgot my phone.” Many of you have probably already seen it, but those who haven’t, we’re curious to see your reaction. Does it disgust you as much as it disgusts other people? Is this such the norm that it really doesn’t bother you it’s just someone video recording what you see daily.

We all love social media and being tuned into everything that’s happening AS it’s happening. Don’t let that affect your real-life relationships though. If you are out to lunch with your significant other, friend, or even worse… CHILD. Please just put your phone away. What will you honestly miss within that hour that you cannot go back and look at? NOTHING. Your instagram feed will still be there, your Facebook notifications will remain a red number, and your tweets… people will still be tweeting. The world is not going to end if you set your phone down and go enjoy life.

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

 

The Frenemy

Frenemy: The type of “friend” whose words or actions bring you down (whether you realize it as intentional or not) The friend you may or may not have cornered about their quicksand like ways and keep around because “its in the past”…and so was one minute ago. The person that will continue to bring you down until you demand better for yourself.

We all have that one friend whose picture would be next to this word in a dictionary. Maybe you have known them since you were running around in Pampers or had some life changing experience with them. That does not make it OK for them to bring you down. Loyalty is great when that person deserves it. If they don’t, none of those other logistics matter.

There will come a point in your life when you finally see the light bulb go off over your head. This person is TOXIC. Regardless if it was a situation that enlightened you or maybe you matured. Either way… when that day comes it will hit you like a ton of bricks and your life will be changed. FOR.THE.BETTER. The best way to move forward from this person is to simply act like they don’t exist in your world anymore. It sounds harsh but let’s be real – they don’t. At one point in your life you were friends and yes you had memories but as we grow, we evolve into better versions of ourselves. It is okay to let go of those who no longer serve you in a positive way. We preach this A LOT. We know!

We, Betties, just strongly believe that if there’s something or someone in your life who no longer lifts you up, challenges you to do better, or genuinely has your best interest at heart; it’s time to say toodles!

This weekend when you’re out at the club with your girlfriends and run into this ‘frenemy’, don’t let her presence bother you. This world is a small one. You aren’t here to please everyone or even LIKE everyone. Do you. Surround yourself with the ones you know are good for you and the rest will fall into place. If the ‘frenemy’ tries to communicate with you. Be cordial, say hello hope all is well and move on. NOTHING and we mean NOTHING pisses off your frenemy more than to see you happy and totally OKAY without them.

Happy Thursday Lovelies.

Xo,

The Ultimate Betty

 

22 Rules to Life

Happy Monday Betties! We were browsing the web earlier and stumbled across this list of the “22 Rules to Life.” We liked it so much we thought we would share it with you.

1.) Never stop thinking. This is important. If someone ever says to you “you need to stop thinking so much,” call them ignorant in your head and keep thinking deeper. It is this mentality that breeds stupid people. Your mind is the most important thing you have, if you stop using it, it will atrophy.

2.) Stare into space blankly and don’t mentally punish yourself for doing it, even if it is for that split second.

3.) Don’t be afraid to talk about anything. You shouldn’t be afraid of reality.

4.) Everyone is a hypocrite.

5.) You are all original. Every life experience is case-sensitive and unique. Every time you wake up or quote someone else, you are becoming more you than anyone has ever been.

6.) Do pointless things. Don’t actively restrain or hide yourself from the redundant.

7.) Stop rushing. Shut up and embrace the sound of silence.

8.) Religion shouldn’t be taught, it should be found. No one should tell you what to believe except for you.

9.) Talking to yourself is healthy. Is there anyone you have more in common with?

10.) There is no such thing as time. The sun never sets or rises. Days and years don’t exist. There is only your life.

11.) We will always be in a transitional phase. Look outside and know that everything will be replaced at some point. This existence is temporary.

12.) It’s not half empty or half full. It’s half a glass.

13.) Every now and then, you take something that you see everyday and try to see it in a different light. Renew its resistance.

14.) Be happy, but don’t force it.

15.) You will always succeed in trying.

16.) We are all crazy.

17.) We are all about as similar as we are different.

18.) Ideas are about as valuable as people.

19.) Words will always be just words. Love is just another four letter word, only the feeling is real.

20.) Ask a child for advice. They may not know much, but they know what’s important.

21.) Prove you’re alive. Do anything from dancing in the supermarket to taking an impulse trip to another country. Remind the world you are still here.

22.) Don’t take anything seriously.

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Check up on these every now and then, a little reminder and thought never hurt anyone.

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

 

The Giving Tree

Are you the type of person who constantly gives? to the point where it’s a major fault and leaves you feeling depleted? Everyone occasionally feels like this, but there is definitely a ‘type’ of person out there that gives until they have absolutely nothing.

We are very into astrology (we always take it with a grain of salt) but one particular horoscope this week stuck out to us. “Being a giver is wonderful – as long as the recipients are worth of your gifts.

We aren’t advising you to become the worlds biggest bitch and say no so much it’s the only word in your vocabulary. However, putting yourself first is healthy. It’s vital to making yourself happy as well as successful. Everyone is always preaching that givers are far more rewarded than takers. MAYBE that is true BUT at what point will YOU be the one who is taking a little while others give to you. It has to be just the right type of balance.

Never let anyone take advantage of you or make you feel that you cannot get things accomplished YOU need to because their tasks are more important. It’s healthy to say no every now and then. Never stretch yourself too thin. The only person that hurts is YOU.

Xo,

West Coast Betty

All those eggs..

Do you find that you put them into that little basket..too often? Yeah, it’s a problem with most people and we’re trying to teach ourselves a new technique.

You see, men, a lot of them always have a back-up plan. For an example, (sorry bobs) they always have something or someone there for them when things go wrong, or a back-up plan if something fails. It could be pig-ish or it could be genius. If we get over the fact that this is absolute truth and move on to the fact that it’s actually a smart move..snaps for the smart men out there.

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We’ve learned this past week again, not to believe everything we hear and be content with what we have. There is far too much going on in the world and around us everyday to have our minds set on just ONE person or ONE job or ONE thing. Don’t get us wrong, if you have a great job and a great relationship, congratulations! You achieved what you wanted but for the rest of us still trying to get that job or find that perfect mate, take that old idiom and use it.

Just stay true to you and good things will come your way. Promise.

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

The Power of Positive Thought

We, we’re into the New Year and our resolutions have faded or are fading fast, so what’s new? You look around and see the evidence of your failure in the empty, discarded fast food bag or bags on the floor of your car. It goes that way, so much for getting in shape with that new gym membership.

It’s not too late to revise and revisit your resolution and save it from the dust heap. How do I do that you ask? Actually it’s quite simple, first put down that TV remote and listen. Resolutions are promises we fool ourselves into making with the transition into the New Year. Like any promise, they can and are be easily broken or waved off. The success rate for changing comfortable behaviors with a spoken promise is quite low.

​As an Ultimate Bob, we want to maximize each day and each opportunity which we come across in our daily travels. Rather than make a promise, let’s each take a breath and envision a new way to change our lives or at least our behaviors. Instead of saying, I’m going to the gym to work out, ride the Lifecycle and get in shape, look forward and see what you will look like and feel after several months of discipline. See the change you want to become. Envision yourself with a smaller waistline, bigger biceps and more prominent triceps.

Close your eyes and see you running each morning, visualize yourself with a slimmer sculpted waistline, in better shape enjoying a more robust energy level and feeling better about yourself. The key is to visualize what it is you want to become.

The constant visualization will not just motivate you; it will reinforce that which you wish to become. The power of your will is far greater than you realize. Trust yourself in that vision, close your eyes and dare to dream the new You into being.

Peace,

The Ultimate Bob

 

What did you learn this week?

This week came with a very important lesson attached.

I heard this quote from a stranger this week and it opened up my eyes to a whole new way of looking at life.

“Life is not always black and white..there are always shades of grey,” is what she told me. It hit me like a brick to face because she actually hit the nail on the head. Sometimes in life we try so hard because we want something so bad and when that something doesn’t work we feel like it’s hopeless. It’s never hopeless.

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We all have a way of looking at life: some of us are planners, some are drifters and some are doers, the planners have the hardest time with this. People enter our lives for a reason and occurrences happen throughout life to teach us a lesson. Let those situations and lessons be your “grey.”

Regardless, we all have our struggles. As long as you go through each day realizing that things will not always go your way and knowing that it is OK. You’ll be just fine, just keep your head held high.

XO.

The Ultimate Betties

ASSumption

We Betties know how it is to be on the assuming side and the receiving side of assumption drama. It’s a stupid emotion and an unfair one at that. But we’re human, we all do it.

We just want to point out the way to avoid it at all costs:

1. Unless you have the facts either from the person you’re assuming about, you really are making a fool of yourself because people who spread gossip and think they know only get a bad reputation from it.

People have character and if you know them well enough you will already know the truth. Point is, don’t assume when you really have no idea..it causes a storm that you wont want to battle.

Remember true Betties always stay classy!

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

Silver Lining

As a Betty, there is one thing that doesn’t sit well with us; failure. That F word is our least favorite, even seeing it makes us cringe. Unfortunately, it is apart of life. Why spend hours beating yourself down about not achieving a goal? Did you give it your all? Of course you did! A true Betty doesn’t half-ass ANYTHING. Instead, try to find the silver lining in your so-called ‘failure’.

“Success comes through rapidly fixing our mistakes rather than getting things right first time.”

Imagine getting everything you wanted the first time. Would the word ‘success’ have any meaning at all? Would you be able to really appreciate those moments of accomplishment? Probably not. As cliché as “everything happens for a reason” sounds, it’s 100% true. Life is a serious of lessons. Things happen because it’s apart of your journey.

If you are now feeling down on yourself; you have two options: sulk, regress, and live in fear that you will never succeed OR keep fighting. Have faith that your purpose in life is bigger than one situation that didn’t go as planned. Keep this in mind.

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This may seem very hard to see, but in the grand scheme of things, it’s true. The journey you are on right now was meant to happen. Take this time to re-evaluate if what you were trying to accomplish was something you wanted. Whole heatedly. If it wasn’t; seek out the opportunities that will soon arise.

Out of clutter, find SIMPLICITY. From discord, find HARMONY. In the middle of difficulty lies OPPORTUNITY.

It’s Monday, Betties. Start your week off fresh. Let go of past mistakes. Acknowledge your worth and understand what lies ahead is far better than what you left behind.

XO,

The Ultimate Betties