Today’s Update: The Hipster

“You used to be able to tell the difference between hipsters and homeless people. Now, it’s between hipsters and retards. I mean, either that guy in the corner in orange safety pants holding a protest sign and wearing a top hat is mentally disabled or he is the coolest fucking guy you will ever know.”

― Chuck Klosterman

Seriously. I’ve been overwhelmed with the amount of men with scruffy beards, attire that costs more than your rent (but ultimately looks like they went dumpster diving), and their stoic demeanor toward life. I’m all for free expression but come on…this is now a trend. You are no longer ‘unique’ you are a part of the crowd. Everyone with an iPhone has ‘Instagram’ – let’s face it, it takes a horrible picture and makes it looks decent. A long come the hipsters and ruin a good fucking thing. I don’t need to see your sixteen ‘Instagram’ updates of your Starbucks coffee cup, New York’s top-selling book, and your legs crossed so we can see your $200 John Varvatos. No one is impressed. Get a life. Get a job. Why are you at Starbucks reading a god damn book at 11am on a Tuesday?

On the flip side, some hipsters ARE the coolest people I know. They are extremely intelligent, laid-back, and they clearly don’t care to get a little dirty. I mean…. look at their clothes. They enjoy getting black out wasted at festivals as they bounce around to Mumford & Sons (KEY POINT: blacked out) I’m all for that. All I can really ask is that the hipster community tone down their attitudes. Stop living in denial. You probably graduated from a community college with a 2.0. Your intellectual book isn’t fooling anyone. So I want opinions, feedback, funny stories on this wacked out community….

I leave you with this

penny fears kindles because “then how are people going to know what you’re reading?”

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

The Single Lady

Sometimes we post so that either gender can benefit from our posts, but today is just for the ladies. We came across this website the other day and we think it would be great for all the single ladies out there.

It is called The Single Woman Guide (thesinglewomanguide.com). She answers questions on love, dating advice and the silly little questions your friends just can’t help you with. Pretty informative we must say!

Take a look, hopefully it will help a Betty out!

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

 

What’s a text?

The other day we were having girl time with some co-workers and we got into talking about technology. The be-all and end-all of the last few generations. We then started discussing how we are fortunate because at our age we are on the cusp of knowing all the technology and still knowing the old school stuff that kids these days don’t have a clue about. (Once heard this kid ask his mother in the store what a VCR was? We about died.)

Our conversation then turned to texting, probably as we were texting. Then she made a statement that really stuck with us. Someone else told her this and it stuck with her too. We all text and sometimes we receive those random or boring texts, or so we think. But if you take a step back and think no matter if that text comes from your parent, your friends or your significant other, there is one thing in common: they thought about YOU.

They care enough to text you, leave it at that.

They care enough to text you, leave it at that.

Sure, we would all love to receive that text from that person saying something so cute but instead we open it to “waah I’m bored.” Not what you expected but they were thinking about you enough to text you. See, to us that means something for the simple fact we have all been through those times when we wanted a text of any sort from “him” or “her.”

Something is better than nothing. Be grateful you’re on their minds no matter who they are.

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

The Power Struggle

By now you should all know our list of pet peeves is ongoing, but a person who suffers from Power Struggle REALLY rubs us the wrong way. In fact, we are informing you of this so you can stop yourself in your tracks if any of this pertains to you.

 
A person who struggles with this comes off very nice, welcoming, and caring as long as you are one step below them at all times. The moment you start increasing their intimidation meter your life turns into a living hell. They will do anything in their power to make sure you are aware who is “boss” at least, “boss” in their mind.
 
The best way to respond to these types of humans is a) stand up for what you know is right at all times and b) keep to yourself. If this is a person you work with B is THE BEST choice. No one said you had to be besties with your co-workers, but you do need to make for a positive work environment.
 
Try to take their struggle as a compliment. You are a person they feel could be as good as them if not better – they just have a strange way of celebrating that in life!
 
Happy Tuesday! XO
 
The Ultimate Betties

Look at you!

Being the sauceboxes that we are, naturally we love e-cards! Those sassy little meme’s get us through each day. Recently we came across this one: ecardsNow we all have been through this: that person you really thought you would never be OK without. Through the heartbreaks and the tears and all the other emotions you may have gone through and boom. You are actually living and breathing and doing just fine now, it’s amazing right!?

What’s even better than that feeling is the feeling you get when that person tries to come back into your life randomly and you get your chance to say “no.” It is rewarding really because at that moment you realize you are now so much stronger than you ever thought you were.

Even if you are not to this point yet, you eventually will be(it is a fact of life) and you will know exactly how we feel.

You’ll be just fine,

The Ultimate Betties xo

The Busy Body Betty

We all know of that one busy body who just can’t seem to pry out of other peoples business. She’s your Chem-lab partner, old friend from high school who spills the latest dirt every girls night out, or your co-worker. They are all around us. The question is how do you deal with it? Not every busy body is a complete and utter brat. They come in all shapes and sizes. She might even be your dearest friend but at times her gossip rants will drive you up the wall. 

First and foremost, you must know how the mind of a busy body works. Something about being “in the know” makes them feel good. Almost superior to you. They have information that you don’t. They love that! Not only do they have juicy information on someone they have ammo to spin a conversation into speaking their mind. Busy bodies THRIVE off letting people know where they stand on every single topic. When you take a step back and really break it down… it’s sad. These people clearly want to feel accepted and this is how they have been able to do so. 

The next time you come across a busy body remember to take what they say with a grain of salt. Don’t allow their information to sway how you feel about someone or a situation. They have their opinion and you are more than welcome to have yours. If you don’t agree with something: VOICE IT. If you like the person they are bad mouthing: TELL THEM. Any busy body can immediately be shut down by the truth because they want to be accepted. Once they sense you are not into what they are saying…. they will stop. They feel defeated. Embarrassed. As if they are no longer accepted. 

If something bothers you, Betties, you have the control to make it stop. 

Xo, 

The Ultimate Betties

Time Flies

Happy Tuesday Betties!

Yesterday we put up some Monday motivation but at this time you’re already midway through your Tuesday work day. That went fast eh!? Yesterday morning you were probably complaining all about how it’s Monday and look it’s almost Wednesday.

We were recently thinking about how quickly our lives are flying by. We all waste too much time on social media platforms, sometimes sleeping and sometimes just being lazy. Now, these are all acceptable from time to time but look back at your past week…are you doing these more than normal or more than you technically should? You may want to review your schedule.

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Guilty as charged, of course. However, we have taken steps to improve our everyday lives and be more productive. The above picture really made us think that we are the only ones to change our lives. Time is going to fly no matter what.

Stay productive and healthy!

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

I Forgot My Phone

When you walk into a restaurant, a movie theatre, or Starbucks how many people have their phones out? Only about 2% don’t. We live in a generation where our iPhone’s trump a one on one conversation with the person sitting right in front of us. Do we care? Maybe when we sit down to really think about it but in the moment.. no. Why? Look around. Everyone else is doing it. You wouldn’t want to look weird and NOT be doing what everyone else is.

We came across a video that disturbed us. It’s titled “I forgot my phone.” Many of you have probably already seen it, but those who haven’t, we’re curious to see your reaction. Does it disgust you as much as it disgusts other people? Is this such the norm that it really doesn’t bother you it’s just someone video recording what you see daily.

We all love social media and being tuned into everything that’s happening AS it’s happening. Don’t let that affect your real-life relationships though. If you are out to lunch with your significant other, friend, or even worse… CHILD. Please just put your phone away. What will you honestly miss within that hour that you cannot go back and look at? NOTHING. Your instagram feed will still be there, your Facebook notifications will remain a red number, and your tweets… people will still be tweeting. The world is not going to end if you set your phone down and go enjoy life.

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

 

The Frenemy

Frenemy: The type of “friend” whose words or actions bring you down (whether you realize it as intentional or not) The friend you may or may not have cornered about their quicksand like ways and keep around because “its in the past”…and so was one minute ago. The person that will continue to bring you down until you demand better for yourself.

We all have that one friend whose picture would be next to this word in a dictionary. Maybe you have known them since you were running around in Pampers or had some life changing experience with them. That does not make it OK for them to bring you down. Loyalty is great when that person deserves it. If they don’t, none of those other logistics matter.

There will come a point in your life when you finally see the light bulb go off over your head. This person is TOXIC. Regardless if it was a situation that enlightened you or maybe you matured. Either way… when that day comes it will hit you like a ton of bricks and your life will be changed. FOR.THE.BETTER. The best way to move forward from this person is to simply act like they don’t exist in your world anymore. It sounds harsh but let’s be real – they don’t. At one point in your life you were friends and yes you had memories but as we grow, we evolve into better versions of ourselves. It is okay to let go of those who no longer serve you in a positive way. We preach this A LOT. We know!

We, Betties, just strongly believe that if there’s something or someone in your life who no longer lifts you up, challenges you to do better, or genuinely has your best interest at heart; it’s time to say toodles!

This weekend when you’re out at the club with your girlfriends and run into this ‘frenemy’, don’t let her presence bother you. This world is a small one. You aren’t here to please everyone or even LIKE everyone. Do you. Surround yourself with the ones you know are good for you and the rest will fall into place. If the ‘frenemy’ tries to communicate with you. Be cordial, say hello hope all is well and move on. NOTHING and we mean NOTHING pisses off your frenemy more than to see you happy and totally OKAY without them.

Happy Thursday Lovelies.

Xo,

The Ultimate Betty

 

Sorry Harry!

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By now everyone and their mother know royalty has been born. If you don’t know the deets we have some for you. A prince was born yesterday at St. Mary’s Hospital in London. He weighed in at 8.6 pounds and he is now third in line for the throne.

After hearing about this yesterday we got down to talking about how the line of royalty works. And all we have to say is it sucks for Prince Harry, he no longer has a chance and we find that kind of sad. Since the child is a boy Harry automatically gets passed over and this child could hold the throne at a very young age.

“No one can tell what political and personal changes the intervening years will bring, but the baby can be expected to become the head of state of 16 countries, including Britain, Australia and Canada. The child will also eventually become Supreme Governor of the Church of England.” Read more: http://www.foxnews.com/world/2013/07/23/world-awaits-first-look-britain-royal-baby/#ixzz2ZsPSnsE0

We congratulate William and Kate and hope they can raise their child is as much peace as possible.

Now back to breeding Kardashians.

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

Dream

As a Pisces dreaming is a natural reaction for us. We are so far from reality it’s almost another planet to us. This is the main reason a Pisces taps into their bedtime dreams so heavily. For us, we believe it to be a sign. A way to dig deeper into what we’re trying to suppress or allow to break free.

Last night was intense. So many random objects, colors, and hidden meanings. You know when you’re in a dream that’s scary and you subconsciously know waking up will bring you to your reality. It will put a halt to your fears. That was one of the biggest signs that we, as people, need to stop being afraid. When you are afraid you miss out on some of the greatest gifts in life. Whether it be your dream job, going back to school, mending broken relationships, and so on. If you can shake yourself from all your fears your REALITY will be far better than any negative thought or scenario you place in your mind.

It’s easy to become stagnant due to fear. You want to stay in your little cube of comfort and never step out of those four imaginary lines. Well, if you don’t, you will forever wonder which will eventually turn into resentment.

Do us a favor, wait… do YOURSELF a favor and break free of your fears. Take a leap of faith. Follow your dreams. Fall in love. Go skydiving. Whatever your fear is: face it head on. You might feel silly for allowing yourself to feel scared when really it was the greatest experience of your life.

Xo,
The Ultimate Betties

Explore

One day you’re sitting there and you let your mind wander to la-la-land and you realize your life is not what you want it to be. What do you do? Where do you go from here?

That’s a tough one, we agree. But we can assure you there is one thing you can do, explore. Explore every option and see where life takes you. We have realized lately, you can’t have all work and no play but vice versa, too much playing and no substance won’t work for long either. Sure. we’d all like to live like Richie Rich for a while but there has to more to life.

exploreSomeone told us recently something along the lines of..there is far too much going on in this world to ever be bored or stagnant. That really made us think about things. We can’t let so much hold us back and you shouldn’t either.

Get out there! See the world, meet someone new, just do something different from you are used to doing. You never know what might happen.

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

 

The grass could be greener

We all know the saying:

The grass isn’t always greener on the other side.

Well we call BS! Obviously it has and can definitely be proven true but when we hear that saying it just makes us think negatively. These Betties are always “half full” so we do our best to push the negativity out of our lives.

Just because you’re not particularly happy in the situation you may be in currently, does not mean you have to stay there. Everyone is putting the bug in your ear that what may be your next move won’t prove as hopeful as you’d like. They’re the ones who are missing out, not you.

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They may be right, it could turn out to be a worse situation but again, you never know until you try. At least you will have that one up on them, taking chances and learning new things.

Moving up or on never hurt anyone in the long run. Do what you want!

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

FOCUS.

“Our life is frittered away by detail…simplify, simplify.” — Henry David Thoreau

We recently have been feeling bogged down with everyday life. The constant need to check e-mails, text messages, Facebook notifications, tweets and keeping up with the joneses on Instagram. Those aren’t even all of the applications most people use.

We had enough. It was time for a change. We came across a free PDF (available in book form too) for easier access on the go. Focus by Leo Babauta has opened our eyes to disconnecting from technology to replenish ourselves.

We won’t spoil it for you but this is a must read. Leo has changed his life due to these techniques. He’s actually become more successful in work, lives a healthier life, and has strengthened his relationships. Why would anybody not read this book?

Go ahead and click here to read what we believe will be a life changer.

Stay Focused,
The Ultimate Betties

Guy Texts

We have a gripe, and we want to share it with our female readers.

Learn to take everything a guy says with a grain of salt..it doesn’t always mean more than what they actually say. We as women have a great way(it’s almost a skill) of making things out to be more than they are.

For example, “Johnny” texts you a random picture of something one afternoon. The thing is, you haven’t heard from J boy in a few days. Naturally, you get excited.. because we mean what girl wouldn’t? Anyways, how do you take that text: “He must still care, he wouldn’t just send me a picture of this wonderful looking plate of spaghetti for no reason.” Wrong. Truthfully it means sh*t, you may have been on his mind but all he really means by this text is he wants you to see his delicious plate of spaghetti. Plain and simple.. That’s it.

He doesn't want this, he just wants you to see how great the spaghetti looks.

He doesn’t want this, he just wants you to see how great the spaghetti looks.

Yeah it sucks, but the quicker women learn to accept what a man says as just that rather than trying to figure out the deeper meaning of it, the better. Your life will get simpler, trust us. We see this too often, we’ve figured it out.

Your turn:)

XO,

The Ultimate Betties