Single, Sassy, & Proud of IT!

Friday’s are dedicated to “What we learned” this week, but not today. A fan of ours posted a picture on Instagram that made us feel compelled to dedicate today’s post to being single.

Traditionally speaking being single is looked down upon. Especially the older we get. People will gossip and judge at weddings and say, ‘She’s pushing 26 can you believe she is still single?’ First off, we are firm believers that there is no RIGHT age to be married. We also feel that your twenties are meant for soul searching. If the person you are with now can deal with your mood swings all through your golden years; he’s probably a keeper. If he can’t…. on to the next one.

Our generation is very fortunate. Woman are completely empowered. More woman go to school than men. More woman these days are climbing the corporate ladder and even owning their own businesses. Basically, we aren’t just put on this earth to find our ‘true love’ and become the next stepford wife. We are able to explore and fulfill OUR dreams. If you aren’t already married or have a child (hell even if you do have a child) this is the time to travel, try out different career paths, enroll in school, go out with your girlfriends, and explore your options for dating.

Unless someone comes along that lifts you up, supports you in any endeavor, and allows you space to breathe – don’t settle. You are amazing and it should take a lot for someone to swoop you off the market. Once you are in a relationship everything becomes “we” or “us”. That person has to be extremely special. If they aren’t – have fun and let yourself be selfish. Until you are 100% in love with yourself you can never fully love another person.

So next time you are at a social gathering, ignore those glares, and be proud for taking this time to find yourself. More importantly, be proud that you didn’t settle for some schmuck who really doesn’t care about you, your well-being, and supports yours dreams and goals. We have come too far Betties to go back now.


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Top 10 Faves on Insta

We are no different than you: we are just as tapped into Instagram as the rest. We chose our top ten favorite profiles! Definitely take a look and follow them. You will not regret it.

1. Alana Blanchard – Model/ Surfer
2. Hypebeast – Online Fashion Magazine
3. Nasty Gal – New & Vintage Clothing
4. Insomniac Events – EDM
5. NYC Street Art – Graffiti in NYC
6. Black Milk Clothing – Leggings
7. The Ultimate Fitness – Fitness Blog
8. Birchbox – Beauty Products
9. Victoria’s Secret – Lingerie
10. Pasqula Rotella – Owner of Insomniac Events

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Be ‘The Help’

We have very little times to watch our favorite reality shows but we sure are glad we took some ‘US’ time to tune in to the latest Kim & Kourtney take Miami. Kim has always been labeled the brat, Khloe the jokester, and Kourtney the responsible one. Maybe the humidity has gotten to their heads over there in Miami but it looks as if the tables have turned. After watching an hour of Kourtney cancelling appearances, demanding a mansion with her own wing, and slapping Kim’s Bestie Jon shocked us. Kourtney’s a DIVA who isn’t afraid to show it.

First off, we are aware that family should help family. It’s what we are here for. Your family never goes away, but how much is too much? Constantly helping someone out makes it easier for them to expect it. If there wasn’t someone to help you whenever things didn’t go your way, what would you do? You would be forced to handle that situation head on. Right? We hope so!

Before you channel your inner Kardashian Diva; take a moment to think “What have I done for this person?” So many times we are caught up in our own drama we forget that people around us are struggling to stay above water.  Also, don’t expect things from a person who makes your problems a priority. We all have our own lives; struggles, commitments, and we still need to make time for ourselves.

This week we challenge you to reflect on what YOU can do to help OTHERS. It could be very simple or something you may not be ready for, either way, attempt it. We promise you – it will make you feel better and show those you love that you appreciate them!


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The Dreaded Family Reunion

Given the choice, a lot of us Bobs would rather stay at home and watch the NBA, the NFL, CSI, NCIS or one of so many other television shows or other passive entertainment than go to the dreaded family reunion. Well mine is this weekend and while I may be bucking the trend, I can’t wait to see portions of my family I only see once every few years.

It is more than just saying hello and trading hugs. Great stories are told (and retold) and it really gives me a sense of belonging. Family is all about history, continuity and the legacy left by those who are no longer with us at this year’s reunion. Some Bobs don’t feel this and that’s okay, I for one just enjoy seeing how everyone aged, how they interact and see if they can remember the reunion where my real Uncle Bob and my Dad broke into song, singing that awful song Oklahoma. Suffice it to say, they should both keep their day jobs. Life is in large measure about what we do, who we do it with and the memories we take from each event. Family reunions are rich in memory building material.

So my final thought, it’s great to see everyone smile (even if it is just a façade), the food is always great and plentiful and, as Seals and Crofts sang, ‘We may never pass this way again’ so plug-in your DVR and record what you must, there will never be another reunion like this one, make a good choice.


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Overuse of Social Media

Between what we learned this week and one of our pet peeves (we have a few), we need to get this off our chests..stop with your obsession with social media.


Unless it is a vital part of your job and you get paid for it..chill out. OK, though it may sound ironic, we do have this blog going and we’re trying to spread the word on it, understandable. On our own though, we may get a little into Instagram on certain days but not every second of every day. We know our boundaries and we stick to them.

We now live in a world where technology, more or less social media, is all people depend on to entertain them. 24/7. When was the last time you went out to eat and you didn’t see almost 3/4 of that table on their phones throughout the dinner? We live on a planet of over six billion people, human beings still exist and so do your voice boxes. Talk to people in person, use your phone when you’re alone. Plus, it gets a little trite when you respond to every single thing right away.

What we’re getting at it is that people spend so much time on social media and responding in .25 seconds to that latest tweet that we now get and expect everything immediately. When you don’t get it, you start listing any issues that can be conjured up about what could be wrong. This is not healthy or OK.


We are all capable of dealing without social media. Take a step back once in a while, give people that mystery again. And hell enjoy your life free of the latest update on every social media platform & from those shared photos you could give a sh*t about!


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Bang with Friends?

We have already discussed how ‘social media ruins relationships‘. Sites such as Facebook, Twitter, and the latest obsession; Instagram had made things much more complicated. Just as we thought things could not get worse- THEY DID.

An app that connects you, using your Facebook profile to see which friends find you bang-able has been created. ‘Bang with Friends’ allows you to choose which friends on Facebook you want to mattress mambo. The only time that person is aware of your dirty little crush is if they feel you’re bang-able. Once this has been established an email is sent to both parties.

The rest is up to YOU.
Here we are again. In the midst of another outlet we have to worry about. It will be interesting to see what consequences come from launching of ‘Bang With Friends’.
What are your thoughts? Does this worry you? Disgust you? Simply intrigue you? Share your thoughts!
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The Ultimate Betty Giveaway












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Once either site has accumulated our 100th follower a prize will be given to that person!

Tell all of your friends!!! This giveaway is not something you want to miss out on

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A Quick Favor

Hello All!

We just wanted to send you all a quick message asking for a huge favor. We work hard everyday on this blog to get our content available to everyone we possibly can. The great thing about blogs is that everyone can read them and if they care enough about what they have just read they will probably pass it along.

We know that when we read content on the web we share it with each other, our friends and our family. We ask that if you come across this post check out our full site and if you like what you see follow us! If you don’t (and that’s OK) maybe you know someone else who would like our stuff, pass it along. The more people we reach the better. Not because we’re trying to get this blog famous (though that would be ah-maaaay-zing!) we hope some of our posts help people. These Betties were born to help! , were also on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and Pinterest, just search The Ultimate Betty or The Ult Betty.
Thanks again to all of you who do follow us, comment on or like our posts. It means a lot more to us than you probably realize.


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Ladies, it’s that time of year again…. I know you are all thinking ‘Chanel, Burberry, and Givenchy‘ fall/winter line. Duh! Unfortunately, that is not what we mean.

No-Shave November is upon us.

You know, the time of year with our boyfriends ‘bro’ out with their other friends to see who can grow the more manly beard. We’re aware that this was originally started for a purpose. A great purpose actually. ‘Movember‘ was created to spread awareness to other men about prostate cancer. If only  men could broadcast the reasoning behind it more often. Instead, they post Facebook status updates and post Instagram pictures of their ever-growing bush on their face. Other dudes comment, “patchy brah”, “apparently you didn’t see your missed call from puberty ha”, or “weaksauce”. They revert back to their awkward thirteen year old self.

The funniest part of all is if a woman EVER said to a man, “It’s ‘No-Shave November Babe! Looks like I can throw away my razor! Tehehe” We would all be wondering this earth single, miserable, and worst of all…. HAIRY.

While a man who can grow facial hair is extremely sexy; it can get aggravating real quick. The rug-burn like kisses. Tickling sensation on your neck when they are being cute and brush up next to you. The constant scratching of their face. Keep calm. If growing a beard, drinking a Heineken, and watching NFL with their friends keeps them happy. Let it happen. In the meantime, you all can go rack up the AMEX at Chanel, Burberry, Versace, Givenchy, and wherever your heart desires. By the time they notice the bill, you will have paid it off and will snap necks until the snow melts off the ground.


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Thanks to fads …


Thanks to fads such as Instagram and Pinterest a person who suffers from Insomnia has no remedy. These sites are worse than Myspace, Facebook, and Twitter combined. Clearly, the three creators of Pinterest also have severe ADHD. One minute you’re looking at ways to get a stain out of your favorite blouse.

“Oh! Mixing car oil and baking soda will get that out?”

I mean WHO in the world has the time to mix different household items and test it out on random things? Of course, it’s much appreciated, but slightly perturbing. I know everyone is so over the “Well, in this economy…” but people have way more time on their hands. To you all, we thank you. If it wasn’t for you, we’d be staring at the dark ceiling to cope with our insomnia, or worse… eating.

I’d say the highlight of it all is the endless quotes you come across.

“Don’t talk bad about your husband. to anyone. Ever.”

Or what?

I’ll get murdered? The person will tell him? Is this not common sense? Should we really talk badly about ANYONE? Let alone the person we fell in love with. Real philosophical. Thank you for wasting 7 minutes out of your day to find scrap paper, a sharpie, and write out that amazingly helpful unintelligent quote. If you’re connected through Facebook…. which let’s face it. We all are. You get the joy of seeing who re-pins these gems or even better who CREATED them.

On a day when you really need some uplifting thoughts go to the quote category. It will make you think. On a day you want to laugh your ass off. Go to the quote category. You will, indeed, laugh your ass off.

Nevertheless, we Betties with insomnia thrive off sites like these. So, thank you Creators! Maybe someone soon can come up with a site that will make you fall asleep after browsing it for 5 minutes. That would be VERY beneficial.


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