Today’s Update: The Hipster

“You used to be able to tell the difference between hipsters and homeless people. Now, it’s between hipsters and retards. I mean, either that guy in the corner in orange safety pants holding a protest sign and wearing a top hat is mentally disabled or he is the coolest fucking guy you will ever know.”

― Chuck Klosterman

Seriously. I’ve been overwhelmed with the amount of men with scruffy beards, attire that costs more than your rent (but ultimately looks like they went dumpster diving), and their stoic demeanor toward life. I’m all for free expression but come on…this is now a trend. You are no longer ‘unique’ you are a part of the crowd. Everyone with an iPhone has ‘Instagram’ – let’s face it, it takes a horrible picture and makes it looks decent. A long come the hipsters and ruin a good fucking thing. I don’t need to see your sixteen ‘Instagram’ updates of your Starbucks coffee cup, New York’s top-selling book, and your legs crossed so we can see your $200 John Varvatos. No one is impressed. Get a life. Get a job. Why are you at Starbucks reading a god damn book at 11am on a Tuesday?

On the flip side, some hipsters ARE the coolest people I know. They are extremely intelligent, laid-back, and they clearly don’t care to get a little dirty. I mean…. look at their clothes. They enjoy getting black out wasted at festivals as they bounce around to Mumford & Sons (KEY POINT: blacked out) I’m all for that. All I can really ask is that the hipster community tone down their attitudes. Stop living in denial. You probably graduated from a community college with a 2.0. Your intellectual book isn’t fooling anyone. So I want opinions, feedback, funny stories on this wacked out community….

I leave you with this

penny fears kindles because “then how are people going to know what you’re reading?”

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

Look at you!

Being the sauceboxes that we are, naturally we love e-cards! Those sassy little meme’s get us through each day. Recently we came across this one: ecardsNow we all have been through this: that person you really thought you would never be OK without. Through the heartbreaks and the tears and all the other emotions you may have gone through and boom. You are actually living and breathing and doing just fine now, it’s amazing right!?

What’s even better than that feeling is the feeling you get when that person tries to come back into your life randomly and you get your chance to say “no.” It is rewarding really because at that moment you realize you are now so much stronger than you ever thought you were.

Even if you are not to this point yet, you eventually will be(it is a fact of life) and you will know exactly how we feel.

You’ll be just fine,

The Ultimate Betties xo

The Busy Body Betty

We all know of that one busy body who just can’t seem to pry out of other peoples business. She’s your Chem-lab partner, old friend from high school who spills the latest dirt every girls night out, or your co-worker. They are all around us. The question is how do you deal with it? Not every busy body is a complete and utter brat. They come in all shapes and sizes. She might even be your dearest friend but at times her gossip rants will drive you up the wall. 

First and foremost, you must know how the mind of a busy body works. Something about being “in the know” makes them feel good. Almost superior to you. They have information that you don’t. They love that! Not only do they have juicy information on someone they have ammo to spin a conversation into speaking their mind. Busy bodies THRIVE off letting people know where they stand on every single topic. When you take a step back and really break it down… it’s sad. These people clearly want to feel accepted and this is how they have been able to do so. 

The next time you come across a busy body remember to take what they say with a grain of salt. Don’t allow their information to sway how you feel about someone or a situation. They have their opinion and you are more than welcome to have yours. If you don’t agree with something: VOICE IT. If you like the person they are bad mouthing: TELL THEM. Any busy body can immediately be shut down by the truth because they want to be accepted. Once they sense you are not into what they are saying…. they will stop. They feel defeated. Embarrassed. As if they are no longer accepted. 

If something bothers you, Betties, you have the control to make it stop. 

Xo, 

The Ultimate Betties

I Forgot My Phone

When you walk into a restaurant, a movie theatre, or Starbucks how many people have their phones out? Only about 2% don’t. We live in a generation where our iPhone’s trump a one on one conversation with the person sitting right in front of us. Do we care? Maybe when we sit down to really think about it but in the moment.. no. Why? Look around. Everyone else is doing it. You wouldn’t want to look weird and NOT be doing what everyone else is.

We came across a video that disturbed us. It’s titled “I forgot my phone.” Many of you have probably already seen it, but those who haven’t, we’re curious to see your reaction. Does it disgust you as much as it disgusts other people? Is this such the norm that it really doesn’t bother you it’s just someone video recording what you see daily.

We all love social media and being tuned into everything that’s happening AS it’s happening. Don’t let that affect your real-life relationships though. If you are out to lunch with your significant other, friend, or even worse… CHILD. Please just put your phone away. What will you honestly miss within that hour that you cannot go back and look at? NOTHING. Your instagram feed will still be there, your Facebook notifications will remain a red number, and your tweets… people will still be tweeting. The world is not going to end if you set your phone down and go enjoy life.

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

 

The Frenemy

Frenemy: The type of “friend” whose words or actions bring you down (whether you realize it as intentional or not) The friend you may or may not have cornered about their quicksand like ways and keep around because “its in the past”…and so was one minute ago. The person that will continue to bring you down until you demand better for yourself.

We all have that one friend whose picture would be next to this word in a dictionary. Maybe you have known them since you were running around in Pampers or had some life changing experience with them. That does not make it OK for them to bring you down. Loyalty is great when that person deserves it. If they don’t, none of those other logistics matter.

There will come a point in your life when you finally see the light bulb go off over your head. This person is TOXIC. Regardless if it was a situation that enlightened you or maybe you matured. Either way… when that day comes it will hit you like a ton of bricks and your life will be changed. FOR.THE.BETTER. The best way to move forward from this person is to simply act like they don’t exist in your world anymore. It sounds harsh but let’s be real – they don’t. At one point in your life you were friends and yes you had memories but as we grow, we evolve into better versions of ourselves. It is okay to let go of those who no longer serve you in a positive way. We preach this A LOT. We know!

We, Betties, just strongly believe that if there’s something or someone in your life who no longer lifts you up, challenges you to do better, or genuinely has your best interest at heart; it’s time to say toodles!

This weekend when you’re out at the club with your girlfriends and run into this ‘frenemy’, don’t let her presence bother you. This world is a small one. You aren’t here to please everyone or even LIKE everyone. Do you. Surround yourself with the ones you know are good for you and the rest will fall into place. If the ‘frenemy’ tries to communicate with you. Be cordial, say hello hope all is well and move on. NOTHING and we mean NOTHING pisses off your frenemy more than to see you happy and totally OKAY without them.

Happy Thursday Lovelies.

Xo,

The Ultimate Betty

 

FOCUS.

“Our life is frittered away by detail…simplify, simplify.” — Henry David Thoreau

We recently have been feeling bogged down with everyday life. The constant need to check e-mails, text messages, Facebook notifications, tweets and keeping up with the joneses on Instagram. Those aren’t even all of the applications most people use.

We had enough. It was time for a change. We came across a free PDF (available in book form too) for easier access on the go. Focus by Leo Babauta has opened our eyes to disconnecting from technology to replenish ourselves.

We won’t spoil it for you but this is a must read. Leo has changed his life due to these techniques. He’s actually become more successful in work, lives a healthier life, and has strengthened his relationships. Why would anybody not read this book?

Go ahead and click here to read what we believe will be a life changer.

Stay Focused,
The Ultimate Betties

Guy Texts

We have a gripe, and we want to share it with our female readers.

Learn to take everything a guy says with a grain of salt..it doesn’t always mean more than what they actually say. We as women have a great way(it’s almost a skill) of making things out to be more than they are.

For example, “Johnny” texts you a random picture of something one afternoon. The thing is, you haven’t heard from J boy in a few days. Naturally, you get excited.. because we mean what girl wouldn’t? Anyways, how do you take that text: “He must still care, he wouldn’t just send me a picture of this wonderful looking plate of spaghetti for no reason.” Wrong. Truthfully it means sh*t, you may have been on his mind but all he really means by this text is he wants you to see his delicious plate of spaghetti. Plain and simple.. That’s it.

He doesn't want this, he just wants you to see how great the spaghetti looks.

He doesn’t want this, he just wants you to see how great the spaghetti looks.

Yeah it sucks, but the quicker women learn to accept what a man says as just that rather than trying to figure out the deeper meaning of it, the better. Your life will get simpler, trust us. We see this too often, we’ve figured it out.

Your turn:)

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

Single, Sassy, & Proud of IT!

Friday’s are dedicated to “What we learned” this week, but not today. A fan of ours posted a picture on Instagram that made us feel compelled to dedicate today’s post to being single.

Traditionally speaking being single is looked down upon. Especially the older we get. People will gossip and judge at weddings and say, ‘She’s pushing 26 can you believe she is still single?’ First off, we are firm believers that there is no RIGHT age to be married. We also feel that your twenties are meant for soul searching. If the person you are with now can deal with your mood swings all through your golden years; he’s probably a keeper. If he can’t…. on to the next one.

Our generation is very fortunate. Woman are completely empowered. More woman go to school than men. More woman these days are climbing the corporate ladder and even owning their own businesses. Basically, we aren’t just put on this earth to find our ‘true love’ and become the next stepford wife. We are able to explore and fulfill OUR dreams. If you aren’t already married or have a child (hell even if you do have a child) this is the time to travel, try out different career paths, enroll in school, go out with your girlfriends, and explore your options for dating.

Unless someone comes along that lifts you up, supports you in any endeavor, and allows you space to breathe – don’t settle. You are amazing and it should take a lot for someone to swoop you off the market. Once you are in a relationship everything becomes “we” or “us”. That person has to be extremely special. If they aren’t – have fun and let yourself be selfish. Until you are 100% in love with yourself you can never fully love another person.

So next time you are at a social gathering, ignore those glares, and be proud for taking this time to find yourself. More importantly, be proud that you didn’t settle for some schmuck who really doesn’t care about you, your well-being, and supports yours dreams and goals. We have come too far Betties to go back now.

Xo,

The Ultimate Betties

Paying it Forward

A personal story for our What did we learn this week:

This past week I was at work doing my thing and this man came up to the bar. Immediately, I asked him what I could get for him and he replied with “I’m just waiting to pay, and how is your night going?” I then started to tell him about how dead it had been. He finished his transaction with his waitress and proceeded to walk away.

Almost immediately he returned and upon his return I noticed a $20 bill that he had slipped under my wine opener. I looked at him and said “Sir, you don’t have to do that!” he said “let me tell you this story” :

I was in Texas at my daughters graduation from a rehab center and I took her and about 30+ other people out to eat. The bill couldn’t of been cheap, I want to say around $1800 at least. I asked for the bill and the waitress told me that it had been taken care of, needless to say I was shocked! I found out that the man sitting in the booth alone on the other side of the restaurant had paid our bill. We were told that his daughter had also attended the same rehab that my daughter had. However, she was later killed by a drunk driver, and he came into this restaurant everyday and ate alone.

As chills ran across my body I kept my eyes locked with this mans while he finished his story. He said ever since that day every time he comes into this restaurant he likes to give something back in memory of what that nice stranger did for him. Paying it forward.

I was SO touched by this story, and he taught me a lesson too. That man gave me a $20 bill and I didn’t even serve him a drink.. just to do what he felt was right. Take a lesson from this story and pay it forward every now and then. Not only will it make you feel good it will make that person feel even better.

It’s the little things in life that make the biggest difference!

XO,

East Coast Betty

Top 10 Faves on Insta

We are no different than you: we are just as tapped into Instagram as the rest. We chose our top ten favorite profiles! Definitely take a look and follow them. You will not regret it.

1. Alana Blanchard – Model/ Surfer
@alanarblanchard
2. Hypebeast – Online Fashion Magazine
@hypebeast
3. Nasty Gal – New & Vintage Clothing
@nastygal
4. Insomniac Events – EDM
@insomniacevents
5. NYC Street Art – Graffiti in NYC
@streetartnyc
6. Black Milk Clothing – Leggings
@blackmilkclothing
7. The Ultimate Fitness – Fitness Blog
@theultimatefitspo
8. Birchbox – Beauty Products
@birchbox
9. Victoria’s Secret – Lingerie
@victoriassecret
10. Pasqula Rotella – Owner of Insomniac Events
@pasqularotella

Enjoy!
Xo,
The Ultimate Betties

Although we love a good drunk text..

don’t do it!

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Here’s the thing about drunk texting, no matter what you “logically” think is acceptable to say at the time..it’s not. The next day we bet you cringe when you pick up your phone and scroll through the latest sent messages.

We have a solution, not that we use it all the time but it’s worth the try. And, yes it definitely works. By now we all have smart phones, and even if it’s not an iPhone, they all must have some sort of notepad or word pad or some kind of app you can download to write down those crazy thoughts in your head. That’s just it, when you get drunk or even when you’re sober.. whip out that phone and go to town! Curse out every dirt bag in your life if you want.

Never go through with sending it but the feeling of releasing those emotions and energies is powerful..i.e. the power of writing. Of course, do what you feel when you want to but our advice is to avoid that route at all costs and..

Our advice usually works,

The Ultimate Betties xo

YOU are who YOU associate YOURSELF with

After a wonderful weekend spent star gazing at Coachella we are back to reality. Monday Blues. Wah!

Spending a weekend with such beautiful people makes you realize a lot. The worst part of it all: our parents were right. Remember that saying “you are who you associate yourself with”, the one that always made you shriek as you were walking out the door with your worst crew of friends; trying to pretend like they were angels. Yeah. Apparently, our parents wisdom reached us during an epiphany at the greatest music festival since Woodstock. Standard.

The people in which you decide to spend time with, essentially will affect the person you become. It all sounds very clichè but we’ve seen it happen. Imagine the five closest people to you. Are they the type who party and trash daddy’s beach house? Are they successful? Even if they aren’t now, do they have dreams they are working toward? See… All of this matters. It does reflect upon you what others around you are doing.

Make sure you surround yourself with those who will lift you up, challenge you to do better, and tell you when you need to get your shit straight.

XO,
The Ultimate Bettie’s

Great Sexpectations

So, lets just say you are hooking up with two different guys and you find yourself in a predicament. When we say hooking up, we know how we mean it but take it for what it’s worth.

A friend of ours came to us recently and told us about her most recent hook-up, and a new guy shes been talking to. The problem is: she isn’t over the first one but he seems to be over her. Shitty situation but let’s be real..this happens to all of us at some point in time. One person is always most interested than their counterpart.

That being said we gave her our honest opinion: keep your options open. Here’s the thing about humans, we want what we can’t have. Once guy #1 realizes he can’t just call you up randomly always expecting you to be there for him..suddenly you are the apple of his eye again. But don’t fall for it, never fall for it. Unless you can seriously lock up those emotions are through that key far into the ocean.

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We say give guy number two a chance or let him be a distraction from guy one. Whatever works for you better. Either way move the f**k on Betties! Too many other things apart of this world to explore. Go exploring!

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

Is she really a whale?

Ok, we have to get this off our chests because honestly it’s ridic.

Leave Kim Kardashian’s maternity style and her weight gain alone, for two different reasons:

1. She’s pregnant people, she’s going to gain weight. Shit happens. Yeah, maybe she doesn’t portray it entirely well, but she’s doing her own thing and we respect her for that.

2. There is SO much going on in the world than what she’s wearing today and how many rolls shes developed since Kanye’s seed has been implanted.

Bad choice.

Bad choice.

We admit some of her choices are not the best but why should we give a flying rat’s ass? If any of you are ever pregnant and in the spotlight constantly, then you may complain. Other than that, move on. Read a book, do something productive with your life.

Over it.

Xo,

The Ultimate Betties

What We Learned This Week

Teen Mom‘s Leah Calvert must have a  p—- made of gold, oops, we meant to say ‘heart’ – a HEART of gold. On this weeks episode of Teen Mom 2: So hard to say good-bye, we had an epiphany.

20 something year old Leah Calvert must be doing something right. Either in the bedroom (our guess) or just has the greatest heart in the world. How can a girl (who gave back her engagement ring to rekindle love with baby daddy) pull off getting that ring back only a week later when she realizes her ex doesn’t want to commit? I’m not sure if it’s a backwoods thing, but I don’t know one male who would put up with that BS.

We want your thoughts! Guys – would you put up with these games? Ladies – do you agree or disagree with what she is doing? Let us know!

XO,

The Ultimate Betties