Time Flies

Happy Tuesday Betties!

Yesterday we put up some Monday motivation but at this time you’re already midway through your Tuesday work day. That went fast eh!? Yesterday morning you were probably complaining all about how it’s Monday and look it’s almost Wednesday.

We were recently thinking about how quickly our lives are flying by. We all waste too much time on social media platforms, sometimes sleeping and sometimes just being lazy. Now, these are all acceptable from time to time but look back at your past week…are you doing these more than normal or more than you technically should? You may want to review your schedule.

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Guilty as charged, of course. However, we have taken steps to improve our everyday lives and be more productive. The above picture really made us think that we are the only ones to change our lives. Time is going to fly no matter what.

Stay productive and healthy!

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

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We have come to realize lately, if we’re not doing something almost always, then were either sleeping or on the edge of going crazy.

Do you find yourself with far too much down time? Maybe you’re in the middle of a transition phase of your life and your “me” time is through the roof. Super, however there is only so much of yourself you can handle in one day. With all those thoughts circling around in there.. You’re bound to over think and we all know where over-thinking leads us… destruction of some sort.

Betties keep busy and though we thoroughly enjoy our down time we also are so much more productive when we just keep going. There is this saying “happy hands, happy heart.” Stay busy and you won’t dwell on things so much.

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If you find yourself with too much down time, you better pick your ass up and go do something productive. Don’t get stagnant, challenge yourself everyday. Always make time for yourself but part of that is doing things for others as well.

Stay Humble!

xo The Ultimate Betties

Self-Sabotaging on the web

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We we’re recently reading our bible, you know Cosmo, and we found this quiz and decided our followers should take it too. It may just be a wake-up call for you.

Are you self-sabotaging on the web?

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Remember, no one needs to know what you score so be honest with yourself.

1. When you hear your frenemy from college started a successful online business, you:

A. Check out the business, and wish them the best. B. Ask mutual friends about it and potentially visit the site.  C. Scoff at the idea that the business will even be successful

2. If you didn’t have internet access for 24 hours, you’d feel:

A. Lost. You just don’t feel like yourself when you’re not plugged in. B. Annoyed. It’s pretty inconvenient, but you’ll survive. C. Like it was Saturday (Usually your off-line day)

3.Your Instagram feed consists mostly of:

A. Selfies B. Intricate looking cocktails C. Your cat

4. You just got bitched at by your boss. When you get back to your cube, you:

A. Google happy animals and just try to breathe B. Write an annoyed tweet, a sarcastic FB post and a scathing blog entry. C. Pull up the report she reamed you out for and grudgingly start fixing it.

5. You notice your ex is now “in a relationship.” Your response:

A. Unfriend him (if you haven’t already) B. Spend the next two hours looking through his new girlfriend’s photos. C. Send her a friend request.

Points:

1. a-2, b-3, c-1

2. a-3, b-2, c-1
3. a-3, b-2, c-1
4. a-2, b-3, c-1
5. a-1, b-2, c-3

5-7 points: Your Facebook friends are your real friends and you don’t even know if your ex is alive.  Yet, our online presence has become an extension of ourselves, sometimes representing the person we want to be (how sad).

8-11 points: You probably occasionally search for your ex, and do some creeping but you know when to pull back. You’re letting the internet work for you, not against you.

12-15 points: If we could spill coffee on your laptop, we would. Some studies have shown that Facebook addicts have lower self-esteem, so take a chill pill. Learn to control your habits now before it does damage.

We hope this made you realize how your internet habits effect you. Don’t be hard on yourself if you we’re in that 12-15 point category. Just take a break, get a hobby and make yourself more interesting!

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

Do you Groupon?

OK, so we may be a little late on reviewing our thoughts on this but better late than never right?

groupon      So, with all the buying and selling websites these days: Ebay, Amazon, Etsy, Wanelo, etc. also came a few websites that feature the selling of products, getaways, goods and services. All of this at a discounted price. Seems legit:

    Groupon, Inc. offers online retail services. The Company provides daily deal on the stuff to do, eat, see and buy in more than 500 markets in 44 countries. It has offices across North America, Europe, Latin America, Asia and other parts of the world. The Company provides an online service that lets groups of people create campaigns to pool resources, including money and personal commitments to take action. It allows users to sell products and transact business online.” –CNBC

If you care enough to research it before you whip out that shiny AMEX, you may find some negative talk about the website. However, we are not here to debate what’s right and what’s wrong. We happen to love Groupon and have definitely bought our share of goods.

You can get anything from a an hour massage for $29 dollars at your local salon to a six-night Ireland vacation with airfare, accommodations and rental car for $999. Worth it! They also offer things like hair and car services, jewelry, clothes, electronics and so much more.

Check it out Betties..but don’t blame us if you get addicted. This is your warning, shop with caution.

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

The Ultimate Cooking Website

Today, like any other day… we found ourself in the kitchen trying to prepare lunch. This becomes a daily battle. We enjoy cooking very much, its therapeutic and a skill every true Betty must have. However, we are NO Paula Dean. We literally go buy the correct amount of ingredients for whichever meal we are making. Leaving us with scraps leftover after only a few days. It’s like being in college ALL OVER AGAIN.

cheese….chicken….strawberry jelly…. onion and chive cream cheese…. and….. wait, is that a tomato? what in the hell kind of meal is this going to make?

 

What if there was a site that you could just punch in all of your household ingredients and WAH-LA…. a list appears! All of your problems would be solved! Well… do we have a surprise for you – go check outSuper Cook: Recipe Search by Ingredients. If we are late to the game on this, please keep your smirks to a minimum. We are very excited to have discovered this. Maybe now we can finally start mastering the art of cooking, one random ingredient at a time.

Xo,

The Ultimate Betties

 

40 days…40 nights?

It’s that time of year again..Lent. Bet you weren’t ready for that one, huh?

Tomorrow is Ash Wednesday, which is always the start of the 40 days & 40 nights of Lent. For those of you who aren’t of the Christian religion, people observe Lent to give up something in their lives in order to feel closer to a higher power. More or less. Lent ends the day before Easter Sunday.

In this case, we take part. Are we God-fearing, church girls..not so much. But what YOU believe in is all up to you. (Remember, never judge especially when it comes to religion). These Betties like to take the time every year to give up something that isn’t good for our health or well-being. Last year, one of us gave up our addiction to Red Bull..not so sure that will be happening again this year though.

Nevertheless, we challenge you all to give up at least one thing, any one thing, for 40 days and 40 nights. Can you take it? We know you can!

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We want to hear from you, tell us what thing you plan on giving up and keep us updated.

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

A Dose of Reality

At some point in all of our lives we meet situations that either shock us, hurt us or embarrass us. That’s life. It has happened to us and each time we realize there is a good lesson to be learned.

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For example, say you or someone you know let that thought that’s been scratching at your brain actually flow from your mouth. That next minute is going to haunt you for a while because you just realized you spoke prematurely. After that, the other parties reaction is probably going to leave you with a good dose of reality and a billion thoughts. At this point, they’re either distancing themselves from you now or saying something right back.. it could get messy.

As embarrassed as you now are, well that will pass. However, this is when you should realize not to take life that serious. Easier said than done, we know.

“It’s never the cards you’re dealt, but always how you play the hand.”

Life is going to give you a slap right to the face every now and then, that’s just part of the journey and learning experience. Don’t feel too bad though, mistakes are made and people will learn to forgive.

Next time you do something you wish you could take back, take a step back and accept that dose of reality..it happened. If you’re on the opposite side, don’t scurry away either. Remember people make mistakes and you will too, one day, and then wouldn’t you too wish for peace?

Reality and Lessons go hand-in-hand.

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

 

What did we learn this week?

Trust is defined as a firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability or strength of someone or something. It’s been said that trust in any relationship is one of the most important aspects. Without it, your relationship is nothing.

This week we learned that broken trust truly is the hardest thing to rebuild. Where do you begin? How do you move forward? and the hardest question still remains; Can you really ever trust someone again after they have betrayed you?

After reading many articles and racking our brain trying to come up with answers, we realized something, Betties. You can read 100 books, articles, and interviews about this topic, but one thing is certain. Unless you can get over whatever betrayal took place, you will never fully trust a person again.  You have to start by letting go. Forgive but never forget.

It’s Friday. A new week is upon us. We challenge you to try to let go of any loose ends that may be causing conflict in your relationship. Whether it be you or the other person who caused the issue. Life is too short to hold on to grudges. If you feel that a person should stay in your life for any reason; act on it. Move forward. Work together as a team and reach your goal.

Have a safe weekend!

Xo,

The Ultimate Betties

 

A Betty Rant

Alrighty Betties and Bob’s, we have to strongly voice our opinion on such topic: Your business on Facebook.

We’re going to make this short and sweet because we value your time and attention spans. We’re not here to offend anyone but for the love of god stop posting your personal drama on Facebook. Tell yourself(if you’re guilty of it) or anyone you know that no one cares!!

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Don’t get us wrong, people care about your problems and those people should be the only ones who hear about it. Sorry if you and your boyfriend are having problems but seriously changing your relationship status every time you have a fight is just absurd.

The last thing we want to see when we log-in to our Facebook’s is the newest Jerry Springer episode. Let’s be real we would rather watch that on TV, at least it has entertainment value.

So, with that off of our chest let’s talk about how to avoid this if you’re guilty of this nonsense:

1. First..take that ish to Twitter..there are too many things going on for people to even see your tweet.

2. Quotes and lyrics are cool if they’re funny or motivational but emo and sappy ones are overdone.

3. Seriously, talk to a friend, a family member, a therapist..someone. People care, just not when they’re trying to get their latest Facebook fix.

You look ridiculous sharing that you’re done with your baby daddy and you deserve better. GOOD. Finally you realized it..instead of writing a Facebook post pack up your stuff and never look back.

Also, we realize there is indeed a button for hiding peoples status updates but this is a long time coming and well we just wanted to vent.

Toodles,

The Ultimate Betties

A Bro’s Sexuality

The other day we saw a random Bob smackin’ the ass of the guy in front of him at the store. They clearly knew each other.. well we hope they did.

That act immediately made us think of when we were in middle school. Those crazy awkward years filled with braces and baby fat. When we first saw guys hugging and yelling “Love you bro” across the hallway. Back then we thought it was a little strange, now..it’s like second nature. If we don’t hear most guys sharing their love affairs with their bros it’s almost assumed that they’re really not great friends.

This love that men in this century share is not an act of homosexuality, but rather of a strong bond and a secure sense of their own sexuality. Don’t get us wrong, there is a limit that can lead to an extreme case of a typical douche-bag, but that’s not where were going with this.

We just think it’s interesting how the term “macho” has changed. For starters, that word is not used much anymore, but when it was the first image that popped into your head was definitely an image of:

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BTW..R.I.P. Randy Savage

In this decade, that word has been dismissed and the meaning of strong and manly plus  the look of guys doesn’t even seem to matter. Which, in all reality is great. Now, we just get the Bros, with “bro love” and “bro touch” (Urban Dictionary that one for a laugh).

The point is, even though the “bro” culture may not be as manly or socially acceptable to the older generations, we Betties accept our Bros and our Bobs just the same.

Love you all,

The Ultimate Betties

Keep Calm & Be Polite

Time to vent Betties! This one goes out to all of those who put up with their Bob’s buddies. If Bob has a solid crew: pat yourself on the back, open a new tab, and go browse Victoria’s Secret swim line.

We will guesstimate that nine out ten readers have this so-called “buddy” in his boxers on their couch. Okay! Maybe that’s a bit dramatic. How are you supposed to act when you and Bob’s best friend don’t get along? Here’s how:

1. Spend time apart. (You should be doing this anyways — it’s healthy) this way he can spend time with the guys and doesn’t feel stuck choosing one relationship over the other.
2. Don’t discuss this person. It’s not a bad thing to not discuss someone who might later create drama.
3. BE CORDIAL! Say hello and goodbye. Truthfully, you don’t need to say much more. It’s impolite not to acknowledge a person entering or exiting a room.

There’s always the fourth and most ideal option: get to know them. Maybe you two are similar? Maybe there’s something about this person that would change your opinion of them? Either way, outside opinions shouldn’t dictate your relationship status. Take what people say with a grain of salt. Trust those who try to help dim your ‘love blinders’ in certain situations. Otherwise, follow your heart and try to maintain your betty-like demeanor through the drama.

For relationship advice, pointers, or just a listening ear –
email us theultimatebetty@gmail.com subject line: Dear Betty

Xoxo,
The Ultimate Betties

Mantras

Betties, do you know what a mantra is and how awesome they are!? Let us take a look, because even we were surprised at how useful they are in our lives.

“A sacred verbal formula repeated in prayer, meditation, or incantation … ” Otherwise, a commonly used word or phrase originating from the Hindu culture.

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In books like Keys To Success by Napoleon Hill (which we highly recommend reading), he reiterates how important repeating words and phrases are because that’s how you learn. Like the title suggests, being successful means trying things in a different approach.

Here’s a mantra about a mantra: “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” ~ Aristotle .. think about it. Whether it’s a good habit or a bad habit we are bound to continue it unless we learn to break the cycle.

One of the most useful mantras is telling yourself to smile. Just think the word “smile” and it is almost automatic that a smile will develop on your lovely face:)

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

Catfishing Mondays

It’s Monday night which means fresh episodes of ‘Catfish‘; a Betties favorite MTV hit series. For those of you who don’t know – the show is a spin-off from the movie ‘Catfish’ released in 2010. Two young men help people meet their online love interests.

Nine times out of ten the people behind their Facebook profiles aren’t who they say they are. Whether it’s to seek revenge or feel accepted; every person has a unique story.

Of course delusion is the first word that comes to mind while watching each episode. In the back of their mind, don’t they wonder – is this real? Especially if they have never spoken to this person on the phone. It’s 2013, everybody and their dog has a cell phone.  Even if they question it they still see it through. It makes us believe there’s some hope in this world. The positive side to this show is how much hope and faith these youngsters have in love. It’s actually quite cute. It shows our world isn’t completely jaded.

We personally commend  participants on the show. It’s heart wrenching to watch the disappointment. However, we think you should all be cautious of online dating. Everybody seems interesting and fabulous behind a computer screen. Your imagination creates the person you want. Let’s get back to being confident enough to seek out love the old-fashioned way. Face-to-face.

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

Men and Manicures: When is Much Just Too Much?

First things first, I’m a bit uncomfortable with the title of “The Ultimate Bob”.  Bob is a tiny bit too masculine for me, so let’s stick with something a tiny bit more attractive.  Just call me … “The Ultimate Bobby”.  We’ll go with that.  Speaking of masculinity (see what I did there?), that’s kind of what I’d like to talk about: men and manicures.
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Personally, I don’t mind men getting manicured, in fact I’m one of those who gets them.  However, I find that most people, men and women collectively, disapprove or find humor in men getting manicured.  We live in the year 2013, and gender roles and their relevance are on their way out.  So it’s hard for me to believe that this proves to be an issue today.  Are men and manicures just too much?  My answer: No.
There are several reasons why:
1) It’s hygienic, an important trait in the work place AND in a relationship
2) It improves the strength of the nail itself
3) It’s shiny!
4) It shows that the man is comfortable enough with himself, and he’s open-minded
5) It’s shiny!!!!
So when you’re looking at a Bob with pristine nails, don’t pass judgement on him.  Instead, praise the Bob for his hygiene and for his open-mindedness.  Besides, don’t we all want a man who cares just a TINY bit about what he looks like?  Is it not true that any good Bob always wants to look his best?
So Betties [and Bobs], men and manicures aren’t too much, they’re just enough.  I’d be more worried if they’re enjoying some retail therapy and asking how your older brother is — THAT’s too much.
By the way, HOW is your brother?  😉
XO,
“The Ultimate Bobby”

Healthy Alternatives

The holidays are over and the blues begin to set in. Only three more months until Spring Break. That means, we have very little time to get rid of what we packed on during all the lovely festivities. It doesn’t help when you work full-time, go to school, and the gym seems to get pushed further and further down your priority list.

We’ve put together a list of 25 healthy snacks you can take to the office to jump start getting trim & slim.

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If there’s anything missing that you enjoy, please comment and let us all know!!!

xo,

The Ultimate Betties