Single, Sassy, & Proud of IT!

Friday’s are dedicated to “What we learned” this week, but not today. A fan of ours posted a picture on Instagram that made us feel compelled to dedicate today’s post to being single.

Traditionally speaking being single is looked down upon. Especially the older we get. People will gossip and judge at weddings and say, ‘She’s pushing 26 can you believe she is still single?’ First off, we are firm believers that there is no RIGHT age to be married. We also feel that your twenties are meant for soul searching. If the person you are with now can deal with your mood swings all through your golden years; he’s probably a keeper. If he can’t…. on to the next one.

Our generation is very fortunate. Woman are completely empowered. More woman go to school than men. More woman these days are climbing the corporate ladder and even owning their own businesses. Basically, we aren’t just put on this earth to find our ‘true love’ and become the next stepford wife. We are able to explore and fulfill OUR dreams. If you aren’t already married or have a child (hell even if you do have a child) this is the time to travel, try out different career paths, enroll in school, go out with your girlfriends, and explore your options for dating.

Unless someone comes along that lifts you up, supports you in any endeavor, and allows you space to breathe – don’t settle. You are amazing and it should take a lot for someone to swoop you off the market. Once you are in a relationship everything becomes “we” or “us”. That person has to be extremely special. If they aren’t – have fun and let yourself be selfish. Until you are 100% in love with yourself you can never fully love another person.

So next time you are at a social gathering, ignore those glares, and be proud for taking this time to find yourself. More importantly, be proud that you didn’t settle for some schmuck who really doesn’t care about you, your well-being, and supports yours dreams and goals. We have come too far Betties to go back now.

Xo,

The Ultimate Betties

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Ten Things NOT to say

Betties —

Over the years we have heard many dating stories. We thought it was time to put a little list together of things NOT to say. If its date number 1 or you’ve been casually hooking up for months; spare yourself the embarrassment PLEASE. Wait until he’s in love with you before you start dropping these bombs.

1. I told my therapist about you — Issues party of 1 your table is ready. We’ve all seen a third-party to help us but keep this to yourself. It’s meant to be private.

2. My ex… — STOP RIGHT THERE. Next…

3. When we’re married/have kids — until this is something you’ve spoken about on a serious level (not stoned off special brownies) don’t speak of this

4. You think she’s hotter than me, don’t you? — Confidence is sexy. If he’s with you it’s because he WANTS to be. Don’t ruin it by saying something like this.

5. Awww it’s so cute and little — If you say this either a) run or b) you’re joking, he’s not laughing, and you’re still in your six month drought.

6. Do you want to see pictures of my cats? — Guys usually don’t want to know you treat your pet like a child. It freaks them out.

7. My baby daddy’s new girlfriend is such a stalker —…. No explanation needed.

8. I hate (insert body part here) — again, confidence is sexy. Also, Most of the time what you hate he doesn’t see so now you just look insecure.

9. Can you go buy me some Tampons? — We don’t even let our best girlfriends do this for us so please don’t humiliate him by asking this.

10. Birth Control? No! I don’t believe in that. — If you are trying to get that ‘stage five’ clinger away from you this works every time… Otherwise NEVER UTTER THESE WORDS.

We feel like these are pretty obvious but sometimes it’s easy to get ‘blinded by love’. Mystery is always good in a relationship especially the beginning.

XO,
The Ultimate Betties

The Dollar Store

I know for a fact that Bobs are, as a species or sub species not supposed to enjoy shopping in a brick and mortar retail location. Maybe shopping for tools at Sears or electronics at some of those cool big box stores is okay. I have a news flash for all of you; go to the Dollar Store or Dollar General or Dollar anything and shop around. Be prepared to enjoy the experience. It’s okay to enjoy shopping, I defy you to leave empty-handed, and you won’t.

I was passing through an airport recently and saw, and I kid you not, a $10 Dollar store with really cool stuff. Whether it’s the Ten Dollar Store or the Dollar Store, enjoy the selection of cologne’s for less than five dollars, razors and razor blades at a good price and all the name brands we see at supermarkets.

So Bobs, give it a chance, take a walk on the wild side and venture out to the Dollar Store the next time your Betty gives you a few hours of Man-Time to yourself. You don’t have to tell anyone…but you will.

Peace

Ultimate Bob

What Did We Learn This Week?

Even the smallest experiences are humbling ones. One of the most inconvenient things happened this week: the dryer broke. Many of us take something so hidden in our house for granted. You only truly see this machine when you need it. Right? Laundry mats are not completely foreign to us. We have lived in cities where that was our only means for clean clothes.

However, when you are a broke college student living in New York; that’s a part of the experience. Get the girls together and have a laundry night! When you are down the street from your house and could run into 20 people you know; it’s not so thrilling.

So we are fully aware it’s 2013 but when did banning coin use at a laundry mat take place? I mean… There’s only few ways to get rid of change these days. That was one of them! Luckily, my Louis Vuitton wallet is vintage and still has a change holder. Most wallets these days don’t. Anyways, so we enter this laundry mat and realize I was clueless. The machine says enter your card.

My debit card? Sweet this is awesome

After spending five minutes looking like a ditz it dawned on me that you have to load a ‘laundry card.’ Okay so after we get that (which wasn’t easy considering the directions were half Spanish) we start our laundry. OK easy enough. Nope! Only 1/3 of the dryers operated. I transported my wet clothes into THREE different dryers. I finally got the courage to ask this little Spanish-speaking woman “what the heck does someone have to do to make this work?” She laughed and showed me. She’s probably thinking “you silly rich girl”

Two hours of feeling like I was on a different planet, I had clean and DRY clothes. This experience was extremely humbling. Just when you think your sh*t doesn’t stink, the universe turns your world upside down while simultaneously slapping you across the face. Stay HUMBLE, be GRATEFUL, and keep your handyman’s number on speed dial.

Happy Friday Betties & Bobbies!
Xo,

The Ultimate Betties

What did we learn this week?

Trust is defined as a firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability or strength of someone or something. It’s been said that trust in any relationship is one of the most important aspects. Without it, your relationship is nothing.

This week we learned that broken trust truly is the hardest thing to rebuild. Where do you begin? How do you move forward? and the hardest question still remains; Can you really ever trust someone again after they have betrayed you?

After reading many articles and racking our brain trying to come up with answers, we realized something, Betties. You can read 100 books, articles, and interviews about this topic, but one thing is certain. Unless you can get over whatever betrayal took place, you will never fully trust a person again.  You have to start by letting go. Forgive but never forget.

It’s Friday. A new week is upon us. We challenge you to try to let go of any loose ends that may be causing conflict in your relationship. Whether it be you or the other person who caused the issue. Life is too short to hold on to grudges. If you feel that a person should stay in your life for any reason; act on it. Move forward. Work together as a team and reach your goal.

Have a safe weekend!

Xo,

The Ultimate Betties