Empathy

Hey Betties and Bobbies,

This is my first official entry as a Bobby, so here is a little back story into my work profile. I went to school for Fashion Design. I know.. hold your “what a typical bobby” scoff, until I finish. My mom passed away while I was attending school, so I never ended up finishing. I had this whole late teens/early 20’s crisis, and decided that it wasn’t for me. That is when I settled to work in the hospitality industry. I am, by no means, turning my nose up at ANY position in this field. In all of my experience, they literally are the hardest working people. Even if someone says “it’s the easiest job in the world”. Yeah, okay. It’s easy. However, there is far more to it than meets the eye.

Though I now have a career in the fashion industry, I still continue to bartend and serve because the people I work with, and work for are amazing. I have been there for 6 years, and they have literally become my family. I have seen so many people, come and go. ‘This one is a teacher, this one is a nurse, this one is a doctor’ so please be mindful of “the bitch who didn’t bring you a diet coke” or “the asshole who forgot your ranch dressing.” As I said before, yes, some may say it’s the easiest job but just like everyone else in the world, they are people too. You don’t know what is going on behind the scenes in the life of your server/bartender/hostess.
Yes, some will say, when you walk in the doors, your personal issues stay outside. THAT IS NEVER THE CASE AND YOU KNOW IT. That has to be some Jedi mind trick that no one has ever taught me, and I don’t believe it’s true. Do I put on a fake smile sometimes? Absolutely. Will I ever be rude to a customer because I’m having a bad day/week/month? Never. However, if you don’t treat me like a human being, I’m certainly not going to give you the same respect. So, the next time you say to yourself, “Wow, this service sucks”, take a different approach. That normal protocol of not tipping or asking to speak to the manager, because option A.) you just made that server pay for your meal or option B.) you potentially just got that person fired from a minimum wage job. If someone came into your job, wherever it may be and was rude to you, what would you do?

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The point I’m trying to make here is all about: EMPATHY. This is totally not a religious, Jesus, rant. It’s about treating others with respect, WE ARE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER. No matter what, the common denominator is that we are all made of skin, bones, and blood. We all have a brain, and just because you have the time to go sit at a restaurant, does not make you any more superior than the person serving you your food and drinks. Just keep that in mind the next time you go out for dinner, or have a Betties night out. That girl serving you, and your Betties cosmos, COULD BE WITH HER BETTIES, having cosmos, but instead she is there taking care of YOU. Take the time to realize that and treat her right.)

xoxo,

Bobby

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Sticks & Stones

If you haven’t caught on yet: we have a bible of pet peeves. Today we have to rant about ‘low blows’. I think the moment you graduate and move on from the bubble we call high school; the low blows shouldn’t follow. It’s inevitable at times to let your emotions guide you but as you get older you need to man up, be an adult, and let bygones be bygones.

If your best friend was ‘white girl wasted’ and started a stupid fight with you because you cut her off. LET IT GO. If an ex decides to contact you either ignore it or act friendly. It’s pretty mind-boggling how someone you once loved and confided in can hit below the belt with no remorse.

Do we need to remind you all the golden rule, ‘If you have nothing nice to say don’t say it at all’.

Basically, these Betties are fed up with the drama, name-calling, and low blow comments that are completely unnecessary. Grow up. If you think life is an ongoing series of Vanderpump Rules — you are delusional. People don’t open up and share their dreams so you can make fun of it later when you’ve run out of ammo. A person who belittles a dream probably doesn’t have their own.

Words have a lasting impression on a person. So why not make your words extraordinary. Be the type of person that has enough class and respect for others to lift them up, not bring them down like a coward.

Just remember Betties & Bobbies… Revenge doesn’t get even BUT karma does.

Don’t ever fucking bully anyone and just so you know karma has everybody’s address and a mother fucking stamp – Lady Gaga

XO,
The Ultimate Betties

Dear Middle Finger…

Thanks for sticking up for me!

"As long as you look good, and you cross your legs..middle fingers don't matter."

“As long as you look good, and you cross your legs..middle fingers don’t matter.”

As trashy as it may be, let’s be honest the middle finger has become a complete staple of our generation. Words don’t even need to be spoken and you know exactly what that person is trying to convey. It’s universal.

One of the most ancient insult gestures known, the middle finger seems to have originated over two millennia ago. It has also been commonly referred to as a phallic symbol: “By doing it, you are offering someone a phallic gesture. It is saying, ‘this is a phallus’ that you’re offering to people, which is a very primeval display.” –BBC News

The middle finger probably arrived in America with the Italian immigrants in the late 1800’s..vaffanculo. And thank you to the Italians, Americans now use it on day-to-day basis. We see it on TV, in pictures, magazines, walking down the street, you name it. People have even positioned their babies sticking up that finger with pride.

Half the time it’s used as a flirty gesture. Let’s look at Bob and Betty flirting during a normal work day, there is definitely some chemistry between them and Bob likes to throw in some playful banter. Although, Betties do use their words if she has nothing to say up goes that middle finger with cute smile to follow.

Judge us all you want but we have no shame using the middle finger:

Keep your chin up high and you’re middle finger higher.

Stay Classy!

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

 

Do you Groupon?

OK, so we may be a little late on reviewing our thoughts on this but better late than never right?

groupon      So, with all the buying and selling websites these days: Ebay, Amazon, Etsy, Wanelo, etc. also came a few websites that feature the selling of products, getaways, goods and services. All of this at a discounted price. Seems legit:

    Groupon, Inc. offers online retail services. The Company provides daily deal on the stuff to do, eat, see and buy in more than 500 markets in 44 countries. It has offices across North America, Europe, Latin America, Asia and other parts of the world. The Company provides an online service that lets groups of people create campaigns to pool resources, including money and personal commitments to take action. It allows users to sell products and transact business online.” –CNBC

If you care enough to research it before you whip out that shiny AMEX, you may find some negative talk about the website. However, we are not here to debate what’s right and what’s wrong. We happen to love Groupon and have definitely bought our share of goods.

You can get anything from a an hour massage for $29 dollars at your local salon to a six-night Ireland vacation with airfare, accommodations and rental car for $999. Worth it! They also offer things like hair and car services, jewelry, clothes, electronics and so much more.

Check it out Betties..but don’t blame us if you get addicted. This is your warning, shop with caution.

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

Man, Woman or Metrosexual?

Met·ro·sex·u·al
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Noun

1. A heterosexual, usually urban male who pays much attention to his personal appearance and cultivates an upscale lifestyle.

So everyone is throwing this ‘M’ word around like it’s some kind of bad thing. When you
look back at 40 or more years of our culture, think about all the snazzy outfits that have evolved from the 60s through the 70s and continue to this day. They are always changing but haven’t guys always cared about how cool they looked, even though they are duty bound not to admit it?

Most men are Metrosexual but few will admit it. If you’re on your way out the door to
work, to tennis, to the gym, going out with your buddies or on a date and you pause for a
moment at the front door and look at yourself in the mirror, you got to admit how you look
matters. Even if the look is a little different, you are indeed a member of the ‘M’ group, like it or not.

The modern day Metro. Plays a contact sport but still manages to keep up his appearance and look like a man.

The modern-day Metro. Plays a contact sport but still manages to keep up his appearance and look like a man.

It’s important to look your best. You only get one First Impression and we all know it
counts. Don’t get stuck on the label. A man who knows he wants to look good is not a sin. So man enjoy your newly found Metrosexuality!

Peace,

The Ultimate Bob

Catfishing Mondays

It’s Monday night which means fresh episodes of ‘Catfish‘; a Betties favorite MTV hit series. For those of you who don’t know – the show is a spin-off from the movie ‘Catfish’ released in 2010. Two young men help people meet their online love interests.

Nine times out of ten the people behind their Facebook profiles aren’t who they say they are. Whether it’s to seek revenge or feel accepted; every person has a unique story.

Of course delusion is the first word that comes to mind while watching each episode. In the back of their mind, don’t they wonder – is this real? Especially if they have never spoken to this person on the phone. It’s 2013, everybody and their dog has a cell phone.  Even if they question it they still see it through. It makes us believe there’s some hope in this world. The positive side to this show is how much hope and faith these youngsters have in love. It’s actually quite cute. It shows our world isn’t completely jaded.

We personally commend  participants on the show. It’s heart wrenching to watch the disappointment. However, we think you should all be cautious of online dating. Everybody seems interesting and fabulous behind a computer screen. Your imagination creates the person you want. Let’s get back to being confident enough to seek out love the old-fashioned way. Face-to-face.

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

Men and Manicures: When is Much Just Too Much?

First things first, I’m a bit uncomfortable with the title of “The Ultimate Bob”.  Bob is a tiny bit too masculine for me, so let’s stick with something a tiny bit more attractive.  Just call me … “The Ultimate Bobby”.  We’ll go with that.  Speaking of masculinity (see what I did there?), that’s kind of what I’d like to talk about: men and manicures.
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Personally, I don’t mind men getting manicured, in fact I’m one of those who gets them.  However, I find that most people, men and women collectively, disapprove or find humor in men getting manicured.  We live in the year 2013, and gender roles and their relevance are on their way out.  So it’s hard for me to believe that this proves to be an issue today.  Are men and manicures just too much?  My answer: No.
There are several reasons why:
1) It’s hygienic, an important trait in the work place AND in a relationship
2) It improves the strength of the nail itself
3) It’s shiny!
4) It shows that the man is comfortable enough with himself, and he’s open-minded
5) It’s shiny!!!!
So when you’re looking at a Bob with pristine nails, don’t pass judgement on him.  Instead, praise the Bob for his hygiene and for his open-mindedness.  Besides, don’t we all want a man who cares just a TINY bit about what he looks like?  Is it not true that any good Bob always wants to look his best?
So Betties [and Bobs], men and manicures aren’t too much, they’re just enough.  I’d be more worried if they’re enjoying some retail therapy and asking how your older brother is — THAT’s too much.
By the way, HOW is your brother?  😉
XO,
“The Ultimate Bobby”

Things We Love: Knock Knock Products

Every now and then we come across products that we absolutely love and of course we want to share them all with you!

Knock Knock products are for the comedians, the passive aggressive types, the dysfunctional ones and of course the writers. We say this with love and well, because it’s true. Once you look through some of their products you’ll love them.

They offer; journals, notepads, stamps, sticky notes, stuff for your dorm room and more!

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They make their products so fun and unique that even if it is a note that starts off with “things you do that really piss me off” it’s still lighthearted.

We originally found one of Knock Knock‘s mini journals at Pier One. While flipping through it and laughing at the random quotes and sarcastic nature we decided we had to find more products and more products we found!

The office products are sure to help ease some tension when your boss tells you something you don’t want to hear.

Check out their site (Knock Knock Stuff) for even more fab finds. Another great idea for a Christmas gift!

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

Our Top 10 Gift Ideas for Her

Yesterday we featured the top 10 gift ideas for him. Today we will do the same but gifts for your wife, girlfriend, aunt or best friend instead! All under $100.

1. Forever Friends Necklace. $69.99. A new spin on the “BFF” necklace.

2. Wine-Opoly Board Game. $19.00. Need we explain further?

3. Sephora Favorites Party Sampler. $45.00. Perfect for the make-up girl and such an awesome deal.

4. Passive-Aggressive Notes. $11. We love these, hilarious and useful.

5. Tabletop Cosmetic Organizer. $30. Have a OCD organizer or neat-freak in your life? You’re welcome.

6. Recharge and Renew. $39.99. Coffee enthusiasts rejoice, a whole package dedicated just for you.

7. Personalized Poem and Canvas. $47.95. Sweet gesture for your best friend.

8. Lomography Dreamer Camera. $65.00. For the avid photographer as a unique gift.

9. Show Me How:500 Things You Should Know. $16.49. A book that everybody should have.

10. Insulated Wine Glasses. $25.95. Set of two.

This one didn’t make our list but it should be noted:  UGG Earmuffs with Speaker Technology. $94.99. For the city girl with a cold winter.

Betties, we hope you enjoyed these gift ideas and that you and yours have a great holiday!

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

Our Top 10 Gift Ideas for Him.

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Today we will be showcasing our top 10 gift ideas for him all under…$100 and all from Gifts.com(which very well may be our new favorite website!)

1. Outdoor Survival Crate. $79.99. Perfect for the adventure man!

2. Bootleg Whiskey Barrel Kit. $99.99. For the Whiskey drinkers.

3. Old School Shaving Kit. $44.95. Awesome idea for the father in your life.

4. Trunk-it: Golf Gear Case. $29.99. For the every-weekend golfer.

5. World Class Cigars. $29.99. 20 cigar samples.

6. Variety of the Month Club. $94.85. 3-6-12 month subscription to a gourmet gift of the month club.

7. Custom Cell Phone Skins. $14.95. Take a favorite picture and have it transformed into a skin for your phone that is sure to be one-of-a-kind.

8. Personalized Family History Crest. $74.99. Perfect find for the history lover or deep-rooted family man.

9. Personalized Coupon Book. $9.95. For the romantics.

10. Makey Makey. $40.00. This one must be checked out, especially for the electronics lover!

Betties, these are only 10 of hundreds of ideas from Gifts.com. Check it out and let us know if you are going to buy any of these ideas we’ve given you.

Check back with us tomorrow for the top 10 gifts for women!

XO,

The Ultimate Betty

P.s. Check out This is Why I’m Broke, for other unique gifts for him!

The Ultimate Holiday Party Musts

OK Betties – Get ready for a list of oober cute things you must have for your next holiday party. December’s filled with events and gatherings for friends and family. We want to make sure you are prepared for yours and have everyone leaving in absolute awe!

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Paper Snowflakes

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Grab small stockings to place inside drinking cups that will hold cutlery and a fun little candy cane treat for your guests!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Drinks & Treats:

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Hot Cocoa Dippers

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Pomegranate Mojito
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Your party will surely be a hit with these goodies! If you have anything you would like to share with us, please do! We’re always looking for new ideas.

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

Be Kind

Every December, a story enters into my brain about a random ‘act of kindness‘ that a person decided to bestow upon our family about 18-20 years ago. Times were tough and my parents were struggling to raise three children under 10 especially at their young age of 28 and 30. One day, my parents went out to our old beat up Pinto that didn’t have much kick left it in to find an envelope in the front seat. Not sure what to think, they opened it and found $500 with a note instructing them to spend this money on our family for Christmas. Presents, a tree, lights, and whatever else one would need to make the holiday not go unnoticed for us children. To this day, we are not sure who it was that left that envelope. It was one of the best Christmases to date (at least for me) because I learned a valuable lesson.

I learned that being kind to others is very important. Every person is fighting their own battle. To be free from their past. To live in their present. And to create their future. We’re all in this journey together. If we can make it less stressful on each other, wouldn’t that make for a better world?

It’s easy to remember this during the holidays since we’re in a giving frame of mind. Being kind goes past December. Take baby steps. Hold a door open for someone. Smile at a stranger as you walk past them. Ask each person you converse with how their day is going. You will be shocked at the response. Kindness IS contagious.

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We challenge you to start TODAY to make it a point to do something friendly to either a stranger or someone you know each day. We promise you will touch many lives by doing so!

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If any Betties have stories like ours, please share! We love hearing how you have been affected by a person going out of their way to make you feel special.

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

Black Friday

OK, Betties it’s our favorite time of the year! Not only because of the Holidays but because once Thanksgiving comes, it’s shop-til-you-drop time.

This year we are planning which Black Friday option is best: wait in the cold until midnight and potentially get trampled on and hurt, do it all online or simply don’t take part at all. We have all the options made easy for our Betties. Some stores even start as early as today! Black Friday went from the morning after Thanksgiving to a 4-day extravaganza. Even grocery stores offer Black Friday deals.

For store and online shoppers:

Check out these websites they showcase all the major stores. Plus they’re easy on the eyes.

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Places like Wal-Mart and Best Buy have already started their deals online. Don’t forget places like Amazon and E-bay who also offer amazing deals.

2. Black Friday

Everyone should check this out, especially those of you who want nothing to do with Black Friday, please enjoy what Buzz Feed has put together for your entertainment:

43 Reasons You Should Stay Home on Black Friday

Literally, people started lining up on Monday, it’s kind of outrageous. These Betties are going to sit back with a glass of wine and do it all online..the stress-free way!

Go get ’em Betties, best of luck!

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

The Ultimate Betty Giveaway

 

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Betties —

Go follow us on Facebook & Twitter!

Once either site has accumulated our 100th follower a prize will be given to that person!

Tell all of your friends!!! This giveaway is not something you want to miss out on

XO, The Ultimate Bettie’s

 

A Quick Favor

Hello All!

We just wanted to send you all a quick message asking for a huge favor. We work hard everyday on this blog to get our content available to everyone we possibly can. The great thing about blogs is that everyone can read them and if they care enough about what they have just read they will probably pass it along.

We know that when we read content on the web we share it with each other, our friends and our family. We ask that if you come across this post check out our full site and if you like what you see follow us! If you don’t (and that’s OK) maybe you know someone else who would like our stuff, pass it along. The more people we reach the better. Not because we’re trying to get this blog famous (though that would be ah-maaaay-zing!) we hope some of our posts help people. These Betties were born to help!

Www.theultimatebetty.com , were also on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and Pinterest, just search The Ultimate Betty or The Ult Betty.
Thanks again to all of you who do follow us, comment on or like our posts. It means a lot more to us than you probably realize.

XO,

The Ultimate Betties