Alright, so let’s jump right into this. Last time you had a trust issue with someone: a friend, a boyfriend, a steady hook-up, whomever, how did it make you feel? Mad or jealous? But did you sit back and think if that particular emotion was because of you or because of them. Did they make you mad or jealous or is that an emotion you’re evoking all on your own?
We (especially women) have a tendency to get jealous because we view other women as direct competition. Do you ever sit back and look at guys’ relationships…they all get a long because well they’re wired differently than us. Unless, maybe when it comes to a female, men just go with the flow and let the petty emotions roll off their backs. Females get jealous of too much. Yes, we are openly admitting our flaws right now but it’s real!
We we’re recently in a situation where our close friends new “beau” was going to meet up with a friend of his for coffee who just happened to be a girl. Our friend immediately got jealous and contacted us. Now, they aren’t officially together but they are more than just a hook-up..it’s that in-between relationship that we all know too well. Does she have the right to be jealous? It is understandable, but we let her know that she has male friends too and if the situation was reversed wouldn’t she want him to trust her.
Especially that he flat-out told her what he was going to do, we think that’s a great sign! The next move is tricky..she can show any emotion she wants to us but to him is it worth it? This brings us back to the beginning, was she jealous because he was going with an unknown girl or because it’s a lack of knowing how great she is and she shouldn’t let something this small get to her.
When they’re hiding something and you find out..that’s where the issue lies but we Betties are smarter than to let that happen 😉
“This life is what you make it. No matter what, you’re going to mess up sometimes, it’s a universal truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you’re going to mess it up.” –Marilyn Monroe
The ULTIMATE Betty
Straight from the mouth of the queen Betty, no one could have said it better. This week we learned a valuable lesson about taking a step back even when our emotions are in overdrive.
Everybody has their battles whether they wear them on their vibrantly colored fuschia sleeve or they bury them deep down. But learning how to read people is a skill YOU should learn as soon as possible. Not only is it valuable in your workplace and with people you’re just meeting but it can save face when it comes to your next love interest.
Recently, we misread an emotion from a friend and started asking too many questions(as most girls do), all with good intentions of course. This spiraled into a confrontation we wanted nothing to do with and after some “words” we were left at a distance. One shitty situation if you ask us.
What we learned though, through communication and realizing not everyone is going to share their feelings we can still learn to take a step back. Paying closer attention to those people who don’t wear their emotion on their sleeve is important. Don’t pressure them just learn to accept that you can’t change a person, you can just be there for them.
We’ll always think we can fix people though, that’s just how Betties are!