Halloween 2013..Part 1.

So, with Halloween only being a week away we know most of you have your costumes ready or at least picked out. We want to do a two part post on what we predict will be the most popular costume we see.

Websites online are predicting anything from Duck Dynasty, Breaking Bad and the infamous Miley Cyrus performance at the VMAs. So if you want to stick out stay far away from these ideas.

We Betties like to take an idea of a costume (one that could be hanging on the wall at your local party city) and make it our own. Never buying the whole costume we find pieces and put it together. People know who we are but definitely dig the originality of what we ended up putting together.

This is probably our favorite!

This is probably our favorite!

We think you should be creative too, it makes it more fun! Check back with us on Friday November 1 to see the results of what was seen most in NYC!

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

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The Single Lady

Sometimes we post so that either gender can benefit from our posts, but today is just for the ladies. We came across this website the other day and we think it would be great for all the single ladies out there.

It is called The Single Woman Guide (thesinglewomanguide.com). She answers questions on love, dating advice and the silly little questions your friends just can’t help you with. Pretty informative we must say!

Take a look, hopefully it will help a Betty out!

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

 

‘Merica

Happy 4th of July to all of our (still) loyal friends and followers. We have been very absent lately and we want to apologize for that. A lot has been going on in our lives but we still want to make a commitment to all the Betties out there. Promise we will be getting back on our A game in the next week.

Have a safe and fun 4th! Remember, in the name of the Betties “Stay classy America”

merica

We Love you!’

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

Single, Sassy, & Proud of IT!

Friday’s are dedicated to “What we learned” this week, but not today. A fan of ours posted a picture on Instagram that made us feel compelled to dedicate today’s post to being single.

Traditionally speaking being single is looked down upon. Especially the older we get. People will gossip and judge at weddings and say, ‘She’s pushing 26 can you believe she is still single?’ First off, we are firm believers that there is no RIGHT age to be married. We also feel that your twenties are meant for soul searching. If the person you are with now can deal with your mood swings all through your golden years; he’s probably a keeper. If he can’t…. on to the next one.

Our generation is very fortunate. Woman are completely empowered. More woman go to school than men. More woman these days are climbing the corporate ladder and even owning their own businesses. Basically, we aren’t just put on this earth to find our ‘true love’ and become the next stepford wife. We are able to explore and fulfill OUR dreams. If you aren’t already married or have a child (hell even if you do have a child) this is the time to travel, try out different career paths, enroll in school, go out with your girlfriends, and explore your options for dating.

Unless someone comes along that lifts you up, supports you in any endeavor, and allows you space to breathe – don’t settle. You are amazing and it should take a lot for someone to swoop you off the market. Once you are in a relationship everything becomes “we” or “us”. That person has to be extremely special. If they aren’t – have fun and let yourself be selfish. Until you are 100% in love with yourself you can never fully love another person.

So next time you are at a social gathering, ignore those glares, and be proud for taking this time to find yourself. More importantly, be proud that you didn’t settle for some schmuck who really doesn’t care about you, your well-being, and supports yours dreams and goals. We have come too far Betties to go back now.

Xo,

The Ultimate Betties

Take a Risk

Lately, we’ve been thinking of doing something out of our comfort zone. Everyone has their view on what a risk really is because let’s be honest not everyone has the same comfort level.

For us, doing something like bungee jumping, skydiving or anything outdoors that provides that rush of excitement and fear is slightly out of our zone. However, it’s always looming in the back of our heads.

Time is ticking and in life the best experiences we’ve had are the ones we either least expected to happen or were afraid of happening. The more you make everyday or every week exciting and facing your fears the better life will become.

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Have you done anything out of your comfort zone? If you have please let us know about your experience!

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

Summer Fragrances

Summer is here! As we all know, it’s filled with beautiful weather, lavish vacations, cute boys, and itty bitty bikini’s. It’s our favorite time of the year! We want to share with our top ten favorite fragrances so you can smell lovely all throughout the hot summer days.

  1. Signorina – Salvatore Ferragamo
  2. Candy – Prada
  3. Daisy – Marc Jacobs
  4. Acqua Di Gio – Giorgio Armani
  5. Especially Escada – Escada
  6. photo 2Desire – Dolce & Gabana
  7. Miss Dior – Dior
  8. Cherry In the Air – Escada
  9. Beach – Bobbi Brown
  10. Flowers – Philosophy

These can be found at any department store or Sephora. Go check them out and see which one fits your summer personality.

Happy Wednesday!

Xo,

West Coast Betty

 

Gatsby

We don’t usually do write-ups or reviews on movies, and we wouldn’t call this a review but after seeing the 2013 version of The Great Gatsby, we were moved.

In 8th or 9th grade we read the book, day-by-day, analyzing the plot, climax and character synopsis. After finishing the short read we were instantly in-love. To this day it is still regarded as one of the best American Novels ever written.

This is the third version of the book adapted into film and it’s incredible. The scenery, lighting and cast were very well thought out and planned. When we don’t find ourselves squirming around in our seats during a 2+ hour movie then we know it’s a great one.

Whether you’ve read the book or not, go see the movie. We promise it won’t be a disappointment (although our crush on Leo may have pushed our liking of the movie that much higher).

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Go see it..

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

Resilience

What did we learn this week? A Betty who can master being resilient will always be fen steps ahead of you.

Resilience is defined as the ability to recover readily from illness, depression, adversity, or the like; buoyancy.

For example: you have worked for an ass of a boss for two years. He promised you a raise and promotion. Instead, he fires you. You had your heart set on that. Not to mention, many financial goals and plans based off your new raise. Instead of moping or plotting your revenge; be resilient. Brush it off and go find something better.

In life you have to learn to bounce back from everything. Those who dwell on things can never move forward in a positive way.

So next time life hits you with a curveball remember to be resilient.

Xo,
The Ultimate Betty

Never doubt a female..seriously.

Anything you can do I can do better.

Remember that little chant growing up? Well, last night one of these Betties got to prove just how right it can be.

I had a little build-it-yourself storage shelf to put together. As I texted one of my male friends the picture of what I was about to assemble he replied with “not a shot in hell you’re going to put that together. Do you even have tools?” Immediately, I shot back that I would now definitely make sure it gets put together.

There is nothing like the doubt of a person to make another person want something more. I was so determined, it didn’t matter how long it took (an hour btw). Between the doubt and the tools remark, I wasn’t about to let a guy make me feel inferior.

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We gals do what we want.

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

Bite your Tongue!

Betties, this one is going to be short and sweet and this is why; because we say what we want when we want. Seriously.

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The older we get and the more situations that we encounter, the more we learn to truly speak our minds. Growing up, we tried to bite our tongues when we were mad in lieu of keeping ourselves on the safe side. Not any more honey, say what you want!

Speak that mind of yours. Someone put you down? Leave you high and dry with no explanation about why they wanted out? Or perhaps they just annoy the ever-living sh*t out of you. Tell them what has been eating at you all this time. If you choose to put it nicely, so be it but don’t hold back your feelings too long. Everyone should say what they want and ask the questions they need to acquire the answers they deserve.

And remember to not feel bad about it once it’s over. People will respect the blunt truth over the hiding of a lie, just to avoid feelings or awkwardness.

..At one point it is what you wanted to say.

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

Single & Ready to Mingle

Ask yourself if you’re ready to mingle before doing so. Are you really ready to mingle? Have you ever seen the movie Swingers? If not, you need to watch it.

I know who I’ve been in relationships. The first time I meet someone I should be wearing a T-Shirt that reads: “Run away. Don’t walk.” Why? Because this chick has work to do before she can ever contribute to a healthy, monogamous relationship with another. For now, I think I will go to Ikea and buy a bamboo tree instead of trying to date.

Take the guy in Swingers, for example. He gets a girl’s number out at a club the first night he meets her. Then, he calls her repeatedly the same evening and leaves voicemail after voicemail on her answering machine until the tape runs out. His voicemails are so lengthy that the machine cuts him off on every attempt. He proceeds to call her back and explain himself. But what happens? The machine continues to cut him off. So he calls back. And on and on and on. You get the point. What I’m trying to say is I’m that guy. You’ve either done this or had it done to you at some point in your life. I haven’t the first clue how to date. In my previous relationship I got lucky because it was love at first sight. Our connection was instant. And yes, I do believe in love at first sight. But, the challenge is maintaining love. Without the proper tools it fades. We skipped the dating stage and lasted several years. But throughout the relationship, I played the same tape over and over again until it finally ran out. She was done. I was done. There was nothing left to give.

I like the phrase single and ready to mingle. It’s catchy. It’s cute. What is mingling anyway? Is it meeting someone new, charming them into bed, into their life and then, Bam! You’re stuck with them for at least the next one to five years.

Single and ready to mingle can be fun, but when a person says it, how can you really tell if they’re ready? I’m 32 going on 25 and this is the first time I’ve ever pondered this question. Hmm…newsflash captain obvious – if you have to question if you’re ready to mingle, chances are you are not ready. Most people are in such a hurry to rush right into that next relationship to take their next victim hostage that they don’t pause long enough to ask if they are ready, let alone heal from the previous relationship. Also, be careful if you’re playing around with those online dating sites. You never know. You might meet your next baby daddy in less time than you planned.

I like single. Just single. Single but not available. Because where I’m at right now, if I meet someone, and I did recently, who’s an amazing woman who actually knows how to date, it would look like this:

“Hi, my name is Heartbroken and I’m not over my ex. Let me tell you all about her and every detail. Then I will drive us to our second date in a U-Haul and ask you to spend the rest of your life with me. We can talk all day and night about every single feeling and process them together while making homemade hummus. When there is silence, I will ask you if you are mad at me. I won’t give you a chance to answer and I will then bombard you with a series of questions before you’ve had an opportunity to answer the first question. The series of questions as follows: Do you not want to be with me anymore? Was it something I said or did? Do I have hummus in my teeth? Did I leave too many voicemails? I’m really sorry but your machine kept cutting me off so I kept calling back to explain but I made it worse.” Phew. Had enough? Yeah, you get the point? For the love of God – do not ever do this. Never. Ever. Single and NOT ready to mingle. Enough said.

The lesson here – take time to get to know yourself before trying to get to know someone else. It’s better to be single than in the wrong relationship. You’re just going to hurt yourself and them.

—Jay

Attention ALL: Gossip Girls

Betty Rule #17: Don’t Gossip

Next to the Golden rule should be parenthesis (this includes no gossiping). We’re human and we all love hearing the 411 on people. We don’t expect people to just quit this cold turkey. However, there are manners involved. For instance, you hear a juicy story and discuss it amongst a small group. Fine. That is if this small group includes those you FULLY trust. If not, the game of telephone has now begun. One person from that small group will run to another small group relying the story. Now, the scoop on Sally’s break-up has turned into a drama series of her ex sleeping with the next door neighbor. Which is completely false!

We forget that while we’re gossiping about someone, they are dealing with the actual issue. Instead of making it worse by hearing 12 different stories that are untrue… Ask if they need help, A person to talk to, or your best bet: STAY OUT OF IT.

Remember this the next time it’s YOU being gossiped about. No one likes it! We’re all adults now and this shouldn’t even require a post! Do us all a favor and TRY your hardest to turn over a new leaf by not allowing gossip in your circle of friends.

xoxo,

West Coast Betty

Take a deeper look

We all know the old adage “don’t judge a book by its cover” but do YOU actually practice what you preach…or read? Yeah, we know it’s hard. But we have found ourselves, lately, surrounded by people who tend to do this more than we’d like.

And that’s fine, that’s their prerogative. However, these Betties are excellent at reading people. Down to the core, OK, maybe not that deep but we will pat ourselves on the back for how awesome we are at seeing the good in people. Even when countless people tell us to stay away we usually already know what to do.iceberg

Sometimes people’s opinions of others is right but usually it’s wrong. People only see what they want to see. It’s only unless they truly care about you that they’re going to see what lies beneath the exterior. Just like Facebook and Instagram, we all only show what we like and what we think looks good. Same as in in the flesh, we choose to show people what we want.

We challenge you to be different from the rest, or at least try something new. Don’t judge the next person you see or get to know a person you’ve already met deeper. Only you can determine if someone to going to be good to you or for you.

You are the only one who will know what is best for you, trust yourself more.

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

Dear Candice

Oscar Wilde said it best – “To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance”

Dedicated to Candice

Think of a stream with water running through it with no current. Now, imagine yourself swimming upstream against the current you created. I am sure many of us can imagine creating our own problems. I was the problem. Some people are quick to blame others for their problems. I know today that the currents in my life are the ones I have created. I produced them for myself and for her. I loved her despite myself. She loved me anyway.

The majority of my drama has been of my own making. People sometimes aren’t aware of the drama that they are in because they’re too caught up in their own bullshit (current) to see it. I’m guilty of this and anyone who knows me and is reading this is most definitely nodding their head up and down in agreement.

The best part about people who are drama is that they just bitch bitch bitch about everything wondering why they have so much drama in their life. And WHINE. Whine about everything. OMG,  just stop, save the drama for your mama and look in the mirror. You are no longer that little stream with a few little currents; you’re more like the owner of an amusement park operating the wave pool. What’s funny is you think everything is about you and cry regularly because Jane Doe deleted you from Facebook. Why you consider this Jane Doe a BFF baffles me because you guys aren’t even friends in real life. Half the time you think people delete you from Facebook when they’ve actually just deactivated their account due to their own drama. Ha! Come on, you know you’ve done this at least once. We’ve all done it. Don’t try and deny the fact that you thought one of your Facebook “friends” deleted and blocked you when really; they simply deactivated their account. Time to get real. Lesbehonest.

In all seriousness, regarding love and life – I was missing a key ingredient…self-love. I think it’s hard for people to love someone else if they don’t fully love themselves. See, the stream is my life. The water is me. The current is what I manifested while swimming upstream against the natural flow of life. At times it felt like a monstrous and considerably greater current than it was. Currents don’t have to exist.

Throughout my life, some of the currents have often felt like an undertow one could experience in the ocean during high tide unable to return to shore. It is only as of late that I’m aware of the undertow that I’ve created for myself. Self-awareness is another key ingredient. Otherwise, you are living a recipe for disaster dumbfounded why your life is a hot mess. The water was intended to be pure. It is for the most part. I believe we are all pure at the core of our beings.

How did I come to understand all of this? Love. Pain. Loss. Heartbreak. She was my greatest love and my biggest teacher. Sure, some may consider it a revolving door relationship, but boy did we try. We tried long and hard. Underneath all of the bullshit, we loved one another so very deeply. She recently told me I couldn’t possibly love her. I did. Very much. I still do. I always will. I loved her as best as I was capable. I told her some time ago if things didn’t work out, she’d always be the one that got away.

Who knows what forever really means anyway? But maybe, just maybe, nothing lasts forever. Or, maybe it does and it’s supposed to last as long as the forever you’re supposed to have with someone until forever runs its course. She saw me, the real me, better than I saw myself, and she loved me despite the current. But she was drowning and I was pulling her down. I didn’t know how to swim. How could I support us both out there in high tide when she was the air I was breathing as I kept going under pulling her down with me?

She couldn’t be my life-jacket anymore. She had to let go. She did it for both of us. I broke our hearts. I can see that now in hindsight but boy does heartbreak suck. It bugs the shit out of me when I hear people say, “It will be ok. Time heals all wounds.” But it does. It’s true. My heart is healing. Slowly. I’m learning. What’s most important is allowing yourself the time to do so. Time to heal. She’s forced me to dig deep enough within myself to find the answers because that’s where the truth lies. That’s the lesson. She’s changed my life.

I will never forget her. In the beginning she told me I renewed her capacity for love. You want to know why she has been so instrumental in my life? I’ll tell ya. Maybe I did renew her capacity for love. She should know she renewed my capacity for love too, more than words can ever express.

The lesson here – love yourself first. No one can be your life-jacket. Everyone around us is our teacher. Look for the lessons in everyone and everything.

XO,

Jay

Vitameatavegamin

This isn’t quite like an I Love Lucy episode; we have found that taking vitamins daily is vital to your overall health. We aren’t getting any younger Betties, so we must prepare by taking care of our bodies now!

We chose our top categories and will list which vitamins you need to take to support that area in your life.

Beauty (A true betty takes pride in her looks)

Cognitive (to regain all of those lost brain cells from EDC & TAO over the years) There are many different vitamins in this category. We chose our two favorites.

  • Omega 3- Fatty Acids
  • SAM-e

Heart (the most vital organ in our body)

Digestive (diet pills are a NO; to maintain a healthy weight making sure you are on track with digestion is the healthiest and most effective long-term)

  • Multivitamin
  • Prebiotics
  • Probiotics
  • Vitamin D

Immune (An apple a day keeps the DR away)

  • Echinacea
  • Multivitamins
  • Vitamin C
  • Vitamin E
  • Zinc

Most of these vitamins are familiar to you but any that you are unsure of (beauty especially) do research. Find what brand works for you! Take it even a step further. If you have a local nutrition store; go browse and ask the store clerks for their opinion.

KEEP CALM & STAY HEALTHY!

XO,

The Ultimate Betties