Monday Inspiration

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Mondays don’t have to be such a downer. This is a reminder of that! Think positive. Set yourself up for a great week!

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

 

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Little Emotions

Alright, so let’s jump right into this. Last time you had a trust issue with someone: a friend, a boyfriend, a steady hook-up, whomever, how did it make you feel? Mad or jealous? But did you sit back and think if that particular emotion was because of you or because of them. Did they make you mad or jealous or is that an emotion you’re evoking all on your own?

We (especially women) have a tendency to get jealous because we view other women as direct competition. Do you ever sit back and look at guys’ relationships…they all get a long because well they’re wired differently than us. Unless, maybe when it comes to a female, men just go with the flow and let the petty emotions roll off their backs. Females get jealous of too much. Yes, we are openly admitting our flaws right now but it’s real!

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We we’re recently in a situation where our close friends new “beau” was going to meet up with a friend of his for coffee who just happened to be a girl. Our friend immediately got jealous and contacted us. Now, they aren’t officially together but they are more than just a hook-up..it’s that in-between relationship that we all know too well. Does she have the right to be jealous? It is understandable, but we let her know that she has male friends too and if the situation was reversed wouldn’t she want him to trust her.

Especially that he flat-out told her what he was going to do, we think that’s a great sign! The next move is tricky..she can show any emotion she wants to us but to him is it worth it? This brings us back to the beginning, was she jealous because he was going with an unknown girl or because it’s a lack of knowing how great she is and she shouldn’t let something this small get to her.

When they’re hiding something and you find out..that’s where the issue lies but we Betties are smarter than to let that happen 😉

xo,

The Betties

I Forgot My Phone

When you walk into a restaurant, a movie theatre, or Starbucks how many people have their phones out? Only about 2% don’t. We live in a generation where our iPhone’s trump a one on one conversation with the person sitting right in front of us. Do we care? Maybe when we sit down to really think about it but in the moment.. no. Why? Look around. Everyone else is doing it. You wouldn’t want to look weird and NOT be doing what everyone else is.

We came across a video that disturbed us. It’s titled “I forgot my phone.” Many of you have probably already seen it, but those who haven’t, we’re curious to see your reaction. Does it disgust you as much as it disgusts other people? Is this such the norm that it really doesn’t bother you it’s just someone video recording what you see daily.

We all love social media and being tuned into everything that’s happening AS it’s happening. Don’t let that affect your real-life relationships though. If you are out to lunch with your significant other, friend, or even worse… CHILD. Please just put your phone away. What will you honestly miss within that hour that you cannot go back and look at? NOTHING. Your instagram feed will still be there, your Facebook notifications will remain a red number, and your tweets… people will still be tweeting. The world is not going to end if you set your phone down and go enjoy life.

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

 

Inspiration Mondays

After the weekend, between the partying, sleeping, chatting with friends and the oh so unwanted drama you’re now back at work. Wah. But never fear we are going to provide you with your Monday inspiration because let’s be honest..sometimes we all need a feel better, feel good quote. So….

Enjoy!

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xo,

The Ultimate Betties

 

Third party influences

Betties, as we wrap up our first week back we want to leave you with something short and to the point.

Throughout your life you will have people criticizing your relationships, your friendships and your partner in general. The third-party influences. Before you take everyone’s opinion look at the overall picture of your relationship. Yes, Cosmo may have the “perfect” way to “catch your man cheating” or a quiz inquiring if you’re too “needy”… that’s one persons opinion and it may not work for everyone.

We say this because as we get older we realize the problems that we face in our relationships should be dealt with by ourselves only. They’re only getting the story you’re telling at that moment, they are not there day in and out to see all the other great stuff that does go on. Sure, take all the opinions or “advice” you want, just remember that person with the genius advice is not on your date night or sitting in on your dinner conversations every night.

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What works best for you and your relationships, friendships or what have you is dependent on YOU not the rest of the world.

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

The Frenemy

Frenemy: The type of “friend” whose words or actions bring you down (whether you realize it as intentional or not) The friend you may or may not have cornered about their quicksand like ways and keep around because “its in the past”…and so was one minute ago. The person that will continue to bring you down until you demand better for yourself.

We all have that one friend whose picture would be next to this word in a dictionary. Maybe you have known them since you were running around in Pampers or had some life changing experience with them. That does not make it OK for them to bring you down. Loyalty is great when that person deserves it. If they don’t, none of those other logistics matter.

There will come a point in your life when you finally see the light bulb go off over your head. This person is TOXIC. Regardless if it was a situation that enlightened you or maybe you matured. Either way… when that day comes it will hit you like a ton of bricks and your life will be changed. FOR.THE.BETTER. The best way to move forward from this person is to simply act like they don’t exist in your world anymore. It sounds harsh but let’s be real – they don’t. At one point in your life you were friends and yes you had memories but as we grow, we evolve into better versions of ourselves. It is okay to let go of those who no longer serve you in a positive way. We preach this A LOT. We know!

We, Betties, just strongly believe that if there’s something or someone in your life who no longer lifts you up, challenges you to do better, or genuinely has your best interest at heart; it’s time to say toodles!

This weekend when you’re out at the club with your girlfriends and run into this ‘frenemy’, don’t let her presence bother you. This world is a small one. You aren’t here to please everyone or even LIKE everyone. Do you. Surround yourself with the ones you know are good for you and the rest will fall into place. If the ‘frenemy’ tries to communicate with you. Be cordial, say hello hope all is well and move on. NOTHING and we mean NOTHING pisses off your frenemy more than to see you happy and totally OKAY without them.

Happy Thursday Lovelies.

Xo,

The Ultimate Betty

 

Be Independent.

Back in the day women were brought up to be pretty dependent on the male species. As years go by this trend is dwindling. Nowadays women are tougher, stronger and more independent than ever (Go us!) Some may still see this as taboo for whatever reason and men may see this as intimidating, let them. With the way the economy is and the up-and-coming generations faltering before our eyes it’s important to hold that independent status.

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For those who live alone or still reside in your parent’s “paradise”, have you done something for yourself yet? Yes, a mani and pedi is great but not what we are thinking.

Have you needed a picture hung, your grass cut or electronics hooked up? We bet your first thought was to call daddy or your closest male counterpart. That may work for now but we all know nothing is secured for life and those people may not be there, time to do it yourself.

What we’re saying is take the initiative to do things on your own, we promise you can. It may seem like a challenge at first but girl, you got this!

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

We’re BACK!

WE’RE BACK BETTIES!

We hope you all had a fabulous summer of sun bathing, shopping, traveling, and meeting your future ex hubbys 🙂

This morning we started our normal routine at the office by checking our email. Our friend sent us a friendly warning about the new iPhone 5s. Before we go into that, let’s just say. This phone looks AMAZING and by AMAZING I mean, it FINALLY comes in gold! OH and for all of you insta-fanatics, the camera is SUPERB.

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Here’s the bad news… after months of trying to figure out your boyfriends finger movement for his password or WORSE that god awful app that looks like a maze, you have succeeded. Well.. if your significant other is looking into the iPhone 5s BEWARE. Apple has decided to make it impossible for you to creep. This is actually a good thing because you are crazy for doing so in the first place, but still, it’s a drag. The new pass code is your fingerprint. It will save you time and is much easier considering your filthy fingerprints are on your screen all day anyways.

Watch the video here.

Sorry to kill your vibe on this lovely Tuesday afternoon, but it looks like your super stalker-ish creeping days are OVER… At least your favorite blog is BACK in action to take your mind off how little control you have now 🙂

XOXO,

The Ultimate Betties

Sorry Harry!

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By now everyone and their mother know royalty has been born. If you don’t know the deets we have some for you. A prince was born yesterday at St. Mary’s Hospital in London. He weighed in at 8.6 pounds and he is now third in line for the throne.

After hearing about this yesterday we got down to talking about how the line of royalty works. And all we have to say is it sucks for Prince Harry, he no longer has a chance and we find that kind of sad. Since the child is a boy Harry automatically gets passed over and this child could hold the throne at a very young age.

“No one can tell what political and personal changes the intervening years will bring, but the baby can be expected to become the head of state of 16 countries, including Britain, Australia and Canada. The child will also eventually become Supreme Governor of the Church of England.” Read more: http://www.foxnews.com/world/2013/07/23/world-awaits-first-look-britain-royal-baby/#ixzz2ZsPSnsE0

We congratulate William and Kate and hope they can raise their child is as much peace as possible.

Now back to breeding Kardashians.

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

GirlCode

If you are a female and have yet to watch GirlCode, we feel sorry for you. Hate to be blunt, but it truly is one of the funniest MTV shows since Real World Seattle when Irene lost her mind and got slapped by her roommate on her way out. These girls are absolutely hilarious and SPOT on with how girls are in every situation they bring up. Infact, we think guys should take a break from ESPN and click over to MTV… they might learn a thing or two, or twelve.

 

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Luckily, they are always replaying these episodes – so if you’ve missed out, don’t wait any longer.. go watch it. you will find yourself sucked in, laughing hysterically because it’s 100% true!
XO,
The Ultimate Betties

 

 

22 Rules to Life

Happy Monday Betties! We were browsing the web earlier and stumbled across this list of the “22 Rules to Life.” We liked it so much we thought we would share it with you.

1.) Never stop thinking. This is important. If someone ever says to you “you need to stop thinking so much,” call them ignorant in your head and keep thinking deeper. It is this mentality that breeds stupid people. Your mind is the most important thing you have, if you stop using it, it will atrophy.

2.) Stare into space blankly and don’t mentally punish yourself for doing it, even if it is for that split second.

3.) Don’t be afraid to talk about anything. You shouldn’t be afraid of reality.

4.) Everyone is a hypocrite.

5.) You are all original. Every life experience is case-sensitive and unique. Every time you wake up or quote someone else, you are becoming more you than anyone has ever been.

6.) Do pointless things. Don’t actively restrain or hide yourself from the redundant.

7.) Stop rushing. Shut up and embrace the sound of silence.

8.) Religion shouldn’t be taught, it should be found. No one should tell you what to believe except for you.

9.) Talking to yourself is healthy. Is there anyone you have more in common with?

10.) There is no such thing as time. The sun never sets or rises. Days and years don’t exist. There is only your life.

11.) We will always be in a transitional phase. Look outside and know that everything will be replaced at some point. This existence is temporary.

12.) It’s not half empty or half full. It’s half a glass.

13.) Every now and then, you take something that you see everyday and try to see it in a different light. Renew its resistance.

14.) Be happy, but don’t force it.

15.) You will always succeed in trying.

16.) We are all crazy.

17.) We are all about as similar as we are different.

18.) Ideas are about as valuable as people.

19.) Words will always be just words. Love is just another four letter word, only the feeling is real.

20.) Ask a child for advice. They may not know much, but they know what’s important.

21.) Prove you’re alive. Do anything from dancing in the supermarket to taking an impulse trip to another country. Remind the world you are still here.

22.) Don’t take anything seriously.

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Check up on these every now and then, a little reminder and thought never hurt anyone.

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

 

Dream

As a Pisces dreaming is a natural reaction for us. We are so far from reality it’s almost another planet to us. This is the main reason a Pisces taps into their bedtime dreams so heavily. For us, we believe it to be a sign. A way to dig deeper into what we’re trying to suppress or allow to break free.

Last night was intense. So many random objects, colors, and hidden meanings. You know when you’re in a dream that’s scary and you subconsciously know waking up will bring you to your reality. It will put a halt to your fears. That was one of the biggest signs that we, as people, need to stop being afraid. When you are afraid you miss out on some of the greatest gifts in life. Whether it be your dream job, going back to school, mending broken relationships, and so on. If you can shake yourself from all your fears your REALITY will be far better than any negative thought or scenario you place in your mind.

It’s easy to become stagnant due to fear. You want to stay in your little cube of comfort and never step out of those four imaginary lines. Well, if you don’t, you will forever wonder which will eventually turn into resentment.

Do us a favor, wait… do YOURSELF a favor and break free of your fears. Take a leap of faith. Follow your dreams. Fall in love. Go skydiving. Whatever your fear is: face it head on. You might feel silly for allowing yourself to feel scared when really it was the greatest experience of your life.

Xo,
The Ultimate Betties

‘Merica

Happy 4th of July to all of our (still) loyal friends and followers. We have been very absent lately and we want to apologize for that. A lot has been going on in our lives but we still want to make a commitment to all the Betties out there. Promise we will be getting back on our A game in the next week.

Have a safe and fun 4th! Remember, in the name of the Betties “Stay classy America”

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We Love you!’

xo,

The Ultimate Betties

Explore

One day you’re sitting there and you let your mind wander to la-la-land and you realize your life is not what you want it to be. What do you do? Where do you go from here?

That’s a tough one, we agree. But we can assure you there is one thing you can do, explore. Explore every option and see where life takes you. We have realized lately, you can’t have all work and no play but vice versa, too much playing and no substance won’t work for long either. Sure. we’d all like to live like Richie Rich for a while but there has to more to life.

exploreSomeone told us recently something along the lines of..there is far too much going on in this world to ever be bored or stagnant. That really made us think about things. We can’t let so much hold us back and you shouldn’t either.

Get out there! See the world, meet someone new, just do something different from you are used to doing. You never know what might happen.

XO,

The Ultimate Betties

 

1. Road Trips

Summer’s filled with so many fun activities: BBQ‘s, Bonfire’s at the Beach, Water Parks, River Trips, and the most important of all; spontaneous road trips. How many times have you been with a group of friends (probably far from sober) and decided to drive to California, Vegas, or a getaway to the Hampton’s? We don’t have enough fingers to keep count. So over the years of being vagabond Barbie’s we have come up with a list of Road Trip Essentials. Keep this in a note on your iPhone or somewhere you will actually read this. Especially if you have consumed one too many vodka crans.

  1. Pack light (swimsuit, cover ups, your VS collection, makeup, and going out dresses)
  2. Snacks (water, fruit, chips & salsa, nuts, etc)
  3. For those who don’t have XM radio PLEASE bring an iPod or have music downloaded on your phone. THIS IS A LIFESAVER! Who wants to drive in silence? NOT US.
  4. The Bible (Vogue) That will keep you entertained for a while.
  5. Camera
  6. Map or GPS
  7. Pillow/Blanket for your beauty sleep. We all know you won’t get any once you have reached your destination.
  8. Car kit (gallon of water, canister of oil, flare lights, or daddy’s AAA card)

These are just a few, we could go on and on, but it would become too OCD and defeat the purpose of ‘spontaneous trips’

XO

The Ultimate Betties