The most important thing in life is your family. There are days you love them, and others you don’t. But, in the end, they’re the people you always come home to. Sometimes it’s the family you’re born into and sometimes it’s the one you make for yourself. – Carrie Bradshaw
This quote could not be any closer to the truth. It’s also a quote to live by. Think about how many times you have been in a knock-down-drag-out fight with the girl you were sharing your most intimate secrets with and laughing over drinks at happy hour. Today, you hate her. She’s the biggest b*@#% that could step foot on this planet. You go on and on about how horrible she is, simply because you’re mad, but mostly hurt.
Human beings by nature expect the world of people in their lives. The #1 rule to life is ‘Never expect anything and you won’t be disappointed’. If you think about all the times you set your expectations aside and just lived life— you’d probably be happy as a clam. The things that didn’t work out wouldn’t phase you and the things that did would be more magical and appreciated.
Relationships; whether it be a friendship, a significant other, or family member should never be a scoreboard. Don’t tally up all the great you’ve done and expect the same in return. Take everything that person says with a grain of salt. After-all, no body is perfect. Life is stressful. It doesn’t get easier the older we get. If you’re friend said a comment that you took out of context because you just got a text from your yoga partner blaming you for something outrageous, whatever.
In regards to not being perfect, we gossip and talk trash behind people’s back. Is this right? Never. Does it happen? Unfortunately. It’s the vicious cycle of life. So, next time your friend confides in you because sally mae said your ex boyfriend was delicious while you were on day 1 of your period and your current babe hasn’t responded in four hours…. just listen. Be a friend. Nod every now and then and throw in the occasional “I total understand” while you’re picking out your outfit for tomorrow.
Try your hardest to not chime in on the low blows. You never know how that person will feel the next day, but as a friend it is your duty to be there and listen… no matter how annoying it is. Unless, it’s a life threatening or 100% acceptable reason to slap this betty and say “SHAPE UP!”— keep calm and carry on.
You won’t remember a mean comment that was mis-interupted because you’ll remember the time you needed a shoulder to cry on, were stuck in a scary situation, or this person showed a random act of kindness. Most of us hold on to the good in people. Not the bad.